I assume some of you guys had experience with girls before you really figured out how or why it was happening. Has anyone reconnected with old girlfriends sinec learning PU, or even just old hookups?

For me, I probably slept with about 4 girls a year for a few years. Each time we would have fun together but I never really created an emotional connection. The 'relationship' would end within several weeks if not sooner.

Late last year, I was at a point where my social skills and game had progressed beyond my emotional capcity and maturity, and I hooked up with a girl from class. I saw her for about a month on and off but eventually she got tired of waiting for me. We remained friends over this school year and we've finally had some real discussions, both about how much we enjoy each other, but also what caused the distance in the first place. We even talked about how we had a physical connection back then, and an emotional one now, and it was too bad how they just missed each other.

In the mean time she's had a more traditional boyfriend, who asked her out and waited 3 dates etc. The problem I am now facing is that we're going to be living away from each other for 4 months. I want a relationship to be possible, but I dont know if it is or what I should do. I dont think that everyone has one person we were destined for, but if one is staring you in the face, why bother looking elsewhere?

Why was she waiting for you? If she's waiting that's your bad. Move on. The male is in control of when everything happens so if ther's any waiting something's wrong. PUAs don't wait. They close. By this point in the relationship (from what I've read) you would actually stand to benefit a lot more by getting more females around you, especially if you actually want to attract her back to you. That's the thing with one-itis... it's counter-intuitive.. you think "hey I got somebody right in front of me" yet each time you try and reach out for just that one, she slips away.. why? it's because you are focused on the one item, just one pussy. This is a mistake and actually guarantees long term failure. Women do not choose to stay with men, they pick guys they can control and aren't afraid of losing, it has more to do with a woman being too insecure with pursuing a man she is actually attracted to because she knows he's high value and will more than likely end up leaving her for someone hotter. Ironically this is the same reason she is more likely to have a sexual relationship with a temporary lover like a PUA. Most people settle and are afraid of pushing the limit of who they think they can hook up with. If you want to attract her back, the best thing you can do is forget about her, stop focusing on her, and start flirting with other women. She'll be on your heels before you even remember she's why you're making so many new friends in the first place. Haven't you seen Swingers? Do you remember the end? "How will she know?" She'll just know man. TRUST ME. Chicks are fucken psychic like that. You'll even dream about it as it unfolds in your life that's how you'll know. Kiss another chick and within a week tell me if you don't see results re-attracting her. She doesn't even have to be aware that it happened... she'll just know and it'll drive her mad which might lead her to requalify herself and you can take it from there.

Thanks for the quick reply. I wish it was as simple as reattracting her. I don't think it would be too much of a problem, as I've been with several girls since we were together and she actually knows one of her friends cheated on her bf with me, so take that for what it's worth. I just don't know if it makes sense to start a relationship a week before I have to move 3 hours away.

"a relationship a week before I have to move 3 hours away"


Dude that's how I lost my virginity. It was straight up out of American Pie man... a serious relationship? NO.. doesn't sound like it.. you want to bang her correct? This is your BEST CHANCE.. your scarcity will make you hotter than anything else can in this case... TRUST ME. I got laid by a groupie on the last night I was in town before I went off to college.. sounds like the same situation. You'll be kicking yourself if you dont try. ALWAYS TRY. If you don't push your limits you'll never know what they are. Chances are, more than likely, she's wondering why you haven't made any good moves yet... they always do.. a lot of girls just dont really care if they already have a b/f.. a lot of times they just have a hunk of meat there to protect them from all the sleezy creeps that hit on them, but if she's all into you that means who gives a fuck about that guy.. he's not hitting them walls like she needs him to hit them walls.. good luck.