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| Tycoon | PostPosted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 6:37 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sun Sep 07, 2008 3:47 am Posts: 46 AOL: ZiasyZ Location: LA | | Have you ever had a girl copy your behaviors? Honestly I think they're being immature but I just wanted your take on it
Like in my case since call back couple hours later, she starts doing the same. Prior she would pick up the second it rings; When I asked her "hey how come you don't pick up your phone?" She replies, because you don't, And so on. What do you guys do? _________________ In order to change we must be sick and tired of being sick and tired.
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| EyeCrush | PostPosted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 7:16 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Tue Apr 07, 2009 7:05 pm Posts: 31 Location: CA | | It means you don't have enough attraction. She's testing you to see if you'll tell her what to do. I'm not saying be bossy but be sure to always put your foot down and let her know who's in charge. She is talking to you at your leisure, not the other way around. At first I wasn't sure if you meant copying everything you're saying like playing "shadow" but it sounds like you mean she's trying to see if she can get away with what you get away with. The answer is she can't. She never does (except for when you need to let her win to keep her chasing). What you do, in this specific case, is tell her why you couldn't pick up your phone. I tell her I had band practice. It's a DHV and leader of men "I told the guys this and that and what to do." Replace that with whatever it is that preoccupies you.
Remember these three things: you are a 1) preoccupied 2) preselected 3) leader. Say this outloud, "I am a preoccupied, preselected leader." Sounds silly. It isn't. Do it. If you are not projecting these three qualities in your phone game she won't chase and continually try and qualify herself to you. You want her qualifying to you in all situations (then throw little IOI treats to reward her "that's cool" but say it casually like it's still not that big a deal unless it's a big hoop "WOW you're awesome!")... does that make sense? It matters on what you are saying to her. If she is trying to get away with what you get away with there is something wrong. You are not making her chase you.
Make sure she is well aware of the fact that you have had MANY previous experiences with females (whether its true or not)... put yourself in that mindset and tell her about your "ladyfriends" that you were just talking to and thinking about hanging out with cuz they think ur hott shit and are so cool. Use that word "ladyfriends". It is especially cool if you tell her about your lesbian friend... anything that keeps her aware of that "FRAME"... that if she doesn't step up you might just walk away. And that is key. Also a guy with options is always busy, if you are always "busy" with work, with networking (THIS IS A BIGGIE MAKE YOURSELF THAT GUY WHO MEETS NEW PPL OFTEN), etc.. she won't care if you didn't answer her call... she'll call you over and over.. just don't ignore her forever or she'll stop chasing.
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| Tycoon | PostPosted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 7:22 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sun Sep 07, 2008 3:47 am Posts: 46 AOL: ZiasyZ Location: LA | | Wow quick reply =]
Actually I have been kinda blowing her off for a couple of days almost 2 weeks, she was WAY too clingy... and soon after started acting the same lol. She actually said up front, I find you boyfriend material (marriage was brought up too O.o) and I told her I'm not down for that ESPECIALLY the marriage part. All I wanted was for her to tone it down. What I'm guessing is that she asked her friends for advice (she told me her friends think I'm a player...). Yea so anyway it was just getting annoying, I could always cut it off and move on but just wondering if there was another way.
But honestly I don't think that she's testing me, but trying to reverse the alpha roles. I pretty much did everything except for F-close btw (HEAVY HEAVY LMR/ASD (still don't really know how to get by it other then mad plowing) _________________ In order to change we must be sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Help always welcomed
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| EyeCrush | PostPosted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 7:28 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Tue Apr 07, 2009 7:05 pm Posts: 31 Location: CA | | Sounds like you need to broaden your horizons and get out and start sargin'... good luck with that.
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| Tycoon | PostPosted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 7:32 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sun Sep 07, 2008 3:47 am Posts: 46 AOL: ZiasyZ Location: LA | | Yea~ i agree, its not worth the trouble lol I was just curious what the people's take was. Got tips for LMR/ASD? Links would be nice _________________ In order to change we must be sick and tired of being sick and tired.
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