I noticed that I'm boring and my biggest problem is I rarely say anything funny. I posted something similar to this somewhere else but it bothers me. The long silence that's uncomfortable and then I try to hard but I just am not very fun or funny. Any help or canned humor I can use?

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

Make friends with people who you find interesting and funny, and hang around with them alot. You'll find that they become part of you and you too become interesting and funny as the.

Well, theres a few things you should know when being funny

1) boundraries depending on your audience

2) timing

3) delivery

4) what you say
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You would be suprised that half the time what you say isn't as important as the rest, depending on what you are going for. Everyone loves to laugh, even the most hardcore Johnny badass will like you if you can make him laugh. My advice to you would be to go on youtube and watch how comedians act and tell stories. This help you take baby steps, if you truly want to be funnier, and help you learn delivery and timing. Watch comedy central and the standup comics they have on there.

A few good comics, not all of which I like, but are funny nonetheless
Dane cook
John leguizamo
Dat phan (lmfao he's so bad, but worth watching still)
Russell peters
Mitch hedberg
Kat williams
and so on.

Read books, and I like to do an exercise, I find a random word, then I make a joke about it. It doesnt even have to be funny, but I practice how I say it, what to add to it, my body language, and how quickly I can get it out. If you can say a quick joke towards certain things, it makes you look witty and funny.

Here are some websites that can help you some more

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Funny

http://www.ahajokes.com/kids_jokes.html <--- don't let this fool you, silly kids jokes are a big hit if said right

http://www.dailycognition.com/index.php ... jokes.html

http://www.jokesnjokes.net/funny.jokes. ... cks001.htm


Good luck man!

thanks a lot I appreciate the links and the tips...I really hope it helps

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

Yea man, no problem, if that doesn't help I'll try to think of something else for you, maybe some good exercises.

Why do you want to be "funny" in the first place? You can surely pick up as many women as you'd like and get laid as much as you want without being funny.

There are different types of funny. Google "Comedy" and see what you get. There are many different styles and one will probably feel more natural to you than others. Try it out and see what happens. The best thing you can do for yourself is to take a course in free-writing or oral communication. Apply yourself and see what happens.

Having said that . . . comedy isn't easy. It's the most difficult of all writing forms (in my opinion) and even more difficult to execute to a live audience. How many really good comedians do you know?

Some will disagree but "funny" is a born talent. To me, it's just like basketball or baseball. Can I practice so that I can shoot a higher % of freethrows? Yes. Can I ever practice enough to be able to pull off a 360 dunk? Are you F'ing kidding?

Do your best and try to get better . . . but don't shoot yourself because you're not the funniest guy in the room. If you were meant to be funny, you'd already be funny. Not the end of the World and not the end of your game.

Man, hb's wanna hang out with someone who is "fun", funny I don't know but FUN and I'm not fun unless I'm stoned. I seem to have lost some of my personality in the last few years because I've been through a lot but it sucks to sit there and have the hb all talking to the other guy in the room cause HE's making her laugh and when it's just me and her there is a weird silence. I hate that.

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

Dont TRY to be funny. Dont expect people to laugh of what you say.

I agree with Goba. Don't try to be a walking stand-up comedian. Instead, be someone interesting with a style that is congruent with your personality. And interesting doesn't mean being able to recite of dozens of snapple fun-facts.

For example, I am naturally a little quirky, so I use a lot of running jokes, roleplay, and elementary school games to hold her attention and further our interaction. If i were to describe myself in one word, I am PLAYFUL. This is my style. But not only am I playful, I am CONFIDENT, RESPECTFUL, and THE LIFE OF THE PARTY.

Here's just a few of my "tools" that I used recently to keep me interesting.
- Played flicks with a girl after I finished my beer. After I won, told her that I was on the 2002 United States Olympic Beer Tab Flicking team.
- Created a complicated secret handshake with a chick. Teased her when she forgot it.
- Convinced a girl to come on vacation with me later that week (not really). Told her that the plane was fully booked, but that I would try to fit her in a suitcase and check her as luggage.
*This playful attitude is integrated into normal, sincere conversation.

You get the idea. No need for canned stuff. Just find what works best with your personality.



Hope this helps,
white_knight

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"Never allow someone to be your priority while you're just their option." - Unknown

Get off the drugs and stop your whining.

There is absolutely no substitute for LIVING an interesting life! Travel, get involved in extra curricular activities, constantly be doing things that get you out of the house and enjoying life.

In the meantime study comedians and how they talk and tell stories. You can actually steal comedians bits if they are not very well known. Study how your friends converse with each other and how they use open loops and multiple conversational threads, and how they insert humor etc etc.

Don't just sit there and hate on yourself for not knowing what to do... always be doing something productive! If you are going to be silent, be studying social interaction.

Also guys, AFC Adam and I are hosting a free tele-seminar on wednesday! Make sure you check it out.

Best,


S

You want to be funny? First link in my signature. Be sure and read the whole thread, I posted in it many times.

PM me if you have any questions.

Your boy,
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I would argue that your probably not that fun stoned... and just like anything else... getting high is defintaly not helping your game.... get off the weed and build yourself a life.. like sinn said.. yeah you can learn to be funny... or you can do things that are interesting and you care about.

Id rather hang out with option two any day.

JMT,
Lucky

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150 people are killed every year by Falling Coconuts.... 10 by Shark Attack.

I couldn't find any stats on death from approaching a woman.

GET DRUNK!!! ..... but stay sober if ur a violent / really retarded drunk ..... and never get too drunk

wow, that was taken way too far out of context. I don't sit around burning all day, in fact until a month or so ago I hadn't smoked in years. I may smoke once or twice a wk. and I don't wnen I'm sarging. I actually drink far more than smoke, but I noticed when I smoke I'm the life of the fukin party cause I just come up with stuff ordinarily I wouldn't

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson