when it comes to not giving a fuck, its really about letting go of your ego and any attachment to the outcome.

When you're attached to the outcome you're really seeking validation for your ego. When you don't give a fuck its really about letting go of the attachment and just staying in the moment

Its not really about letting go of your ego and any attachment of the outcome. But more simply not caring than letting go.

Well said... I do this also.. I think there alot of people who don't (a lot of friends I have that I had to let go)..People do things wrong, or don't get what they want and they seem not to question what they wrong but instead run away to their happy place and never look book and try to see what they did wrong and what they can do next time to make it better. Then again don't fall victim to over analyzing things too much and beating your self up! I think one of the hardest things for anyone to do is to look themselves in the mirror and look at their flaws and thinks they need to improve..people tend to avoid this but sooner or later it will bite them in the ass. Be positive but also REAL

What I've believed for years as the right balance is....

I give a shit, but I don't give a fuck.

I mean, I don't give a fuck about individual outcomes. If this person responds to me, it doesn't matter. I am confident and not limited by outcome.

I do, however, give a shit about the world, humanity, and my future success.

I believe in myself. I don't believe in your opinion unless you've earned my respect.

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What really helped me was that i told myself that i wasn't going to be a pushover and i really applied the material that were given on this forum. so far so good.

This goes right back to time saving habits of the high value person (man/woman).

Compare with the bitch shield, it is a tool to save time by not caring for people who does not have high enough value to help her S&R value.

The not giving a shit attitude is a male equivalent to the bitch shield. (Only for us it starts out as just a faked attitude but later on really becomes a time saver.)

Ok, so we got/(wanna fake) choices. Why would we care about everyone and anyone? The fact is, we dont, we just care about the ones that have a direct impact on our S&R value. (Yes Im an asshole but it is true to a certain extent that varies from individual to individual.)
Protector of loved ones means exactly that, loved ones, you do not get my protection unless you have a value for me.

People we normally care about:

Friends/Family: Impact on survival value
Collegues, teachers, bosses: Impact on survival value
Wings: Impact on both our survival and replication values
Targets: Impact on our replication value
AMOGs: Negative impact on both values
BFs: Negative impact on our survival value

People we do not care about: Everybody else


When we have got our lives together (I hope most of us have) we can care about the wellbeing of the people around us. Third world children, the less fortunate etc. But in reality most of us do that just to feel good about themselves. The reason that we do not care more than we do is the same as a bitch shield, we do not want to invest time and resources (money energy) in something that does not potentially give us anything back in the near future. I wish the world would be more caring and that more people should care more about the less fortunate but unfortunately this is reality.

So finally, the point of this post... Here is the list of people we care about from most important to least important.

Ourselves
Our inner circle
Other people with an impact on our S&R value
The less fotunate
The rest (they do not need anything, do not bring you anything, why care)

Ezo

Undeniable Spirit is correct. Your ego is what keeps you miserable and searching. Your ego is sin. Your ego is what lines the pockets of self-help gurus, religious institutions, governments, etc. around the planet. I could go on and on. Trust me, without your ego you wouldn't be as horny and creepy as you are at this time. Girls would simply be a part of life. You wouldn't sarge or peacock. Funniest thing is that you would then start attracting all kinds of people to you. You would be the one people would want. What is even funnier is there would be times you would turn down a girl simply because you felt like doing something else.

When you deny something you repress it. If you pretend to not give a fuck you will only let yourself become obsessed with the idea of actually giving a fuck! You will become even more dominated by chubby women. Scary thought, but very true. That is why Americans and Brits are so fat and obsessed with sex. It all stems from the Anglophile view that life should be about pain and suffering. Hence, all the addictions to things like food, sex, and drugs.