This girl drives me insane!! Sometimes i think i like her so much and other times i hate her!

heres the background- I met her through a mutual friend, shes away at uni so we spoke on the phone and the net etc, she used to call me every day for about an hour at a time. When she was back in town she would come chill at mine and give me huge ioi's hugging me all night etc etc, the problem was she has a bf so whenever she thought about wanting to kiss me etc she thought of her bf (she even told me that)

Anyway eventually i stupidly told her how i felt and the mutual friend got involved and started chattin shit (jealousy thing) resulting in us stopping speaking for a while. We sorted things out next time she was in town and went to the cinema, she chilled at mine and again major ioi's. Ive never tried anything with her, like a total AFC ive been worried about the reaction etc, so i know where ive gone wrong and i wanna try and fix it.

Problem now is that she rarely replies to my calls/texts and one minute she seems cool, wants to talk to me and go out and stuff and then the next i just wont hear from her or get replies. So i think fuck her theres millions more girls out there, dont need her shes a bitch but then every girl i look at or talk to or sleep with im always thinkin yea but its not her!! No matter what i do i cant get over her, and just as i do start getting over her she starts callin me or textin me again and i end up right back at the beginning.

She's back in town this weekend so i'll probably be seeing her, if she chills with me again then im more the wiser now so will try and escalate things a little, she also goes through phases of wanting to be with her bf and then not wanting to be with him (its a long distance relationship) another point that i think might be putting her off is that in the past ive slept with two of her best friends which she knows about, one being the mutual friend that introduced us.

Any advice? I dont really want to get over her and forget her, shes an awesome girl and if its not meant to be then i'd just love to be good friends with her again as i enjoy her company and she makes me laugh but ideally i wanna get with her. I just dont know how to get back to the point where she used to call me every day

it probably would have helped to jump on the opportunity earlier but if she still keeps coming back you know that she wants you if she is truly giving you all these IOI's. and her saying that she wants to be with her bf right before kissing you is just some LMR, stay in control and find your way around it and see what happens from there... happy sarging

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Thats the thing when im actually with her she give me huge ioi's and it gets me hooked, but then when she goes away again i hardly ever hear from her! She says its because she misses people when shes away so her way of dealing with it is just by not talking to them, but that winds me up so much! Im hoping she'll come chill with me when shes back and i can hopefully escalate things and see how they go

ya i think we've all been there before man. honestly its a hard road and to be able to overcome it and get what you want out of it is not gonna be easy. since shes giving u the ioi's i agree you just need to get past her LMR of a bf and go for it. either shell say no i cant i have a bf after you kiss, and you tell her some k-close rejection answer we have here on the forum and u find another path to remaining friends. or she kisses you more and hopefully it works out. just decide what your gonna do and go for it man! hope this helps

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-moony