I have attracted a girl. It was fine for a while, but then the "momentum" just stopped. Now she isn't attracted anymore, we know each other but that's just about it. Like if it was just a "Saturday one-evening love."

This has happen to me before. And I don't want it to happen again. So, what to do guys?

Carpe Diem.

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You don't know the future, you can't change the past. The only thing that matters is THE CURRENT MOMENT.

Probably u turned into " Nice Guy " criteria bro.
C&F + Keep ur self Busy ( 100% will work )

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wll , you didnt really give me muc not think about.... but i understand cause this has happened to me too .... the guy who wrote before me is probably right... "nice guy" shit..... thats what happened to me and i lost my girl... but then i didnt care and just sort of, not toyed, but teased her a bit..... and i won her over.. again ...... i was young though.... and she dumped me later cuz i didint fuck her on the first date ....POINT IS , its possible

just do what you gotta do

hell yeah you can re-attract a girl.

sometimes you have to start back at the beginning, but it hapens all the time. just think about on again off again and erratic relationships.

sensing IOD's is no reason to give up. just callibrate your game accordingly and you will eventuall achieve what you set out for.

Go away for awhile, and re-create yourself. Advice AFCAdam once gave... it worked for me.

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"Road to Social Mastery."

Re-actracting them is not the biggest issue.

FInding out what turned them off and making corrections to your game in a real sense is the issue. What good will it do to get them back if you slide back into your comfort zone and turn them off again?

The reason chicks put us back into the fuckhead "friends" zone is because we act that way. We got to lead and set the schedule. Pick where to eat. Pick when to meet. Pick when you're tired of talking. Stay ahead of her.

Whatever you did to get them, has to be maintained the entire time you are with her. That's why natural game is the best.

Good luck

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There's a guy I've known for five years now. At one point a year or so ago, I turned off to him completely. We weren't even friends for a while.

Then we reconnected, he developed a sincere friendship with me (following my blog and so forth), and meanwhile he did a lot of what guys would I spoze call "social proofing" -- introducing me to his groups of friends, being alpha, subtly introducing sexual intent, telling me about other girls (but not in an obvious trying to make me jealous kind of way).

Then one night, out of nowhere, chemistry returned. He was very patient and developed things very quietly. I barely even noticed. Now he's put marriage on the table, and I find myself seriously considering it.

So ... yes ... it's possible.

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Nightrider actually got this one correct!

You need to address the root cause of what turned her off to you in the first place.


S

Yes its possible without a doubt. You just need to re-calibrate it properly.

Sinn said Nightrider has got it right. I think this is where the issue of pick up becomes a problem. It is all well and good learning to meet and <a href="http://www.attractwomen.org">attract women</a> but then it becomes a ball ache keeping it up so that you can keep the girl.

I have learn't most routines out there and found that I had problems when it came to keeping a girl. Now I just work on making my natural character more attractive. Taking up cool activities, having fun, enjoying life etc etc.

Now any girl I attract is attracted to me. I don't have to worry about what I say or do around her. Makes life so much easier

The exact same thing happened to me when I was a new instructor. Eventually, when girls figured out that I didn't have shit going for me but weed and Tivo, they left!

It was time to get a life! All the routines in the world don't mean anything if don't have a life.


S

It definitely happens all the time, you should be trying to re-attract a girl every time you see her. You have to game her each and every time until she recognizes and accepts your value.

I'm dealing with this on a daily basis because I recently moved to NYC and have a pretty small social circle at the moment, live in a small place, and really don't have anywhere close to the social proof that I had back home. Shit, I had a HB9 flake on me tonight. It would have never happened back home, but it's because I've only been here 3 weeks now and haven't had the time to extend my sphere of influence outside my few friends. I don't know the places to go yet, or the things to do.

The trick is not to let it discourage you, these things take time. Work on gaming other girls and get them in your life, even if it is only as friends. Surround yourself with women and the romantic connections will come. It will also help spark up whatever flames might have once been.

Just don't get stuck on one girl. Let her be, up your social proof and she'll more than probably come back to you if there was the connection to begin with.

Build yourself an attractive lifestyle and they will come.

A trick I play on myself is to go for multiple women at the same time. This subtly changes your frame to make you really feel like the valuable one. You won't do AFC things like sit by the phone and wait for her to respond to your text.

Even if she's the one you want, just go for 3-5 women at the same time. You won't have time to be nervous or worry and you'll just be alpha.

CPT

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oh it is possible, I've done it a few times, but usually giving them some space is involved, i usually use this time to figure out what I am doing wrong and come back as a better me. If what attracted them to you in the 1st place was the real you, then it'll re-attract her.