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PostPosted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 6:06 am 
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:x i dont know what happened i was gaming women just fine and had all the confidence in the world. then like a light switch it was turned off just as fast as it was turned on and i'm trying to do everything in my power to get my confidence and gaming approaches back and its all gone. i revert back to an afc and now even more frustrated knowing how well things were going. any suggestions on what one can do to get their gaming back together or any pieces of motivational information


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PostPosted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 6:19 am 
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Sure, your inner confidence isn't solid. You are validating yourself from responses you get from women. And as for pick up, are you using routines, and or openers, or approaching multiple women? we need to know details.


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PostPosted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 4:17 pm 
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weird, its like riding a bicycle once you learn it you will do it good.
Maybe poster above me is right - you got turned down few times and took it too much into your heart. Negative responses should not destroy your confidence and game. Its part of the game. Once you realise it you will be rocking again


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PostPosted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 11:55 pm 
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i just use openers simple things to get the conversation started. then it just all falls into place.


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PostPosted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 11:56 pm 
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I had the same thing happen to me, of all times, the day after my first f-close in a year and a half. I think you just have to keep working on that inner game attitude and it probably just comes and goes as your mind tries to revert to years of habit. I'm usually a cynical person, so I have to work my ass off constantly to keep this change going. I think if you just keep busting your ass and holding your head up, you'll find it again.


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PostPosted: Mon Mar 30, 2009 12:58 pm 
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Get your dick out of your heart!

Thats actually a song, but the point is simple and its just like the other guys here have already said. Dont take rejection to heart.

RJ said something interesting in one of the video series' Ive seen of his:

He talks about the power of language and how it affects our attitude and confidence. He talks quite a lot about this but one thing that stands out is that the negative things that happen in our life have the most profound affect on us. Why would you let the people that hurt you the most have the most control over you?

That right there is the key. Dont take rejection so hard? These women dont even know you. They are rejecting you based on an initial impression. The whole game of PU is about the initial impression. And unfortunately, if your inner game gets knocked, its a quick downward spiral.

You are the prize, they all want to be with you, they just dont know it yet. If they cant figure it out, you arent letting them know what they are missing correctly. And if they still dont bite, move on to the next one. But get your dick out of your heart!!


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 31, 2009 1:37 am 
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trev thanks for the slap to the face. i found it all just hit me like a brick.


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