help!

i used to date a girl a couple months ago - for about 5 weeks (slept with her a few times) and really really fell for her - even though i don't have trouble picking up and meeting girls = one-i-tis!

i (stupidly) had my heart on my sleeve in the beginning, think she got scared after a few weeks, and pulled back. a little over a year ago, she did get out of a 5 year relationship where she was engaged (a little over a year ago). i think maybe while we were dating, she was also seeing someone else... maybe a long distance guy since she would have 'friends visiting' on a couple consecutive weekends.

to make a long story short, i pulled back and she really didn't make an effort. so it's been a little over a month since we've hung out/talked.

yesterday she sent me an email that was quite nice, but lacking real emotional depth or anything about her missing me. more like a 'how have you been!??!! what's new?!?' email.

anyway, i ended up inviting her to something a few days out. she said she has a 'client dinner' but when she found out it would be over by 7:30pm, she said ok.

i think she's probably dating someone else (probably not in the area) or doesn't want to be intimate anymore, so i'm wondering how should i act when i see her in a couple days. perhaps just being fun and nice, but not giving her too much attention. don't know...

i'm afraid of being crazy one-i-tis into her again and once again getting really hurt, so would be great to feel in control when we see each other and for her to walk away feeling like she's missing out by not being with me.

i would love to push her attraction switches!!!! how do i push her attraction switches with an old one-i-tis if she's not into it anymore or dating someone else?

suggestions?!?? help!!!

....do what she's doing to get over oneitis....GFTOW! Yay. Is she really worth all the effort of your mind?

I don't blame her for "sleeping" around (besides the fact that I don't blame any women for that matter) because of having just gotten out of a long 5 yr relationship....if that was me, I'd go do 230305409750498750 other women in a day....my house would have 50 revolving doors.....give her space and time...she prob needs it. If you still insist though, just become a better "fucker" than those dudes who are prob also doing her.

In the end...if your still scared of oneitis...just remember to give yourself some space too....maybe you need it?!

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The hotter they are, the harder they fall....for me.