| Hello everyone, aside from reading the book by Geoffrey Miller, has anyone watched his speech on dvd 3 of david deangelo's advanced series? I have, and im confused. He mentions the study done by David Buss and also mentioned that the following list represents both good gene fitness and good provider indicators:
kindness
intelligence
adaptability
exciting personality
good health
creativity
sense of humor
he talks about how guys try and go the indirect route - med school, nice car, big house, nice clothes, money, etc.....but everything we need is right inside of us (see above list).
So we don't need to be financially stable? making 30k a year or 100k is absolutely irrelavent? exercising is a waste of time? So ideally women are looking for the qualities on the above list and will not look for trade-off's between males (ie. your good dad material but your face is ugly and she boinks someone else behind your back so her kid isn't ugly like you).
I guess what im trying to do is reach a solid undertanding of this information. How does one attain fitness indicators that show both good genes and good provider qualities - because as Geoffrey Miller mentions, most animals can do nothing to change themselves, but humans can. I'm working on the exciting personality and confident part as all of us are, but Its not like I lack kindness, intelligence, adaptability, sense of humor, and the rest of them - but...still no girlfriend....
what am I not understanding here?
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