long story short.


i need to know what to do next? do i keep gaming her or should i just move on and try not to talk to her again? she's my co-star in a school play so this is going to be awkward. i need some advice please

this is the background info.

i have known her for about 2 weeks. she opened me when we first met. i did everything right imo, super lots of kino because we have to dance together in the school play. backstage we always play around. she knows i am higher value because girls always come up to me and give me hugs, everyone knows me, i'm an athlete, coaches greet me when i walk in the hallway, and im pretty popular. i know she is attracted to me. we have great conversations about everything. we know each other really well.

so today we were hugging for a long time in the hallway at school then i went in for the kiss. she backed away and started laughing like she was in an uncomfortable situation. she left me hanging like a fool. then i was just like bye see ya later. she said see ya. because i was walking her to class. and she's not my girlfriend, i'm just trying to make her into another friend with benefits. i just dont know what i should do. i just wanted to go in for the kiss because i said to myself "come on, grow some balls! if not now then never you pussy!" i just did not expect that outcome

What was the pre-kiss situation like? DYD taught me to stroke the girl's hair beforehand and if she likes that, 99% of the time she's going to let you kiss her. And did you look into her eyes, look down at her lips, then look up at her eyes again w/ that calm expression on your face that says "I want to kiss you"? if she doesn't want to kiss she'll def look uncomfortable at this point

the type up conversation leading up to it is also crucial. it should be pretty flirty. When I'm at a party and I've been chatting up a girl for a while, she's throwing me IOIs, I'll take her outside either to grab a smoke or say "I better grab my wallet out of my car before one of these (random people/scumbags/guys/insane mejicanos/communists)
steals it. Come w/ me".
I'll be flirting, holding her and say "you know want a know a secret?". I'll say or whisper something like (I like you/you're cute/you're adorable) depending on the girl. She'll reply then I'll stroke her hair & do the eye contact, look at lips, eye contact thing.

And "another friend with benefits"? I don't know about kissing your friend w/ benefits in the hallway. You should keep that hushed up in case you want multiple fb in the same high school (which I'm sure you do). The best thing you could do is NEVER kiss and tell and let her know that you never kiss and tell. And when you fuck a girl don't tell your friends. I know it's hard but you'll get more girls that way.

How did she deny your kiss? Did she move back or just turn her head?

she turned her head and laughed. its was like a "what are you doing" kinda laugh. that's my fault, i rushed it. long hug, then lean in for kiss. no pre-kiss kino.



but that's done. i dont care about the past. i need advice on how to handle the situation next time i see her.

whatever you do don't apologize for it. the next time you see her she'll probably have decided whether to "give you a shot" or back off from you.

Act normal when you see her again. Approach her and if she sends IOIs then sarge ahead. If she avoids you I'd forget her for now. Try her again a little later down the line.

btw, i wouldn't bring the failed kiss close up unless she brings it up & if she does bring it up do your best to be c&f about it.

thanks, i'll try it

Build up to the kiss. If you've escalated kino right, kissing shouldn't be much of an issue. If it is, she might be nervous or it may even be a shit test in itself.

I had the latter happen to me about an hour ago. We were play fighting and had that romantic lull. I went in for it and she turned the cheek. I pulled her hair back and kissed her. She smiled.

Not saying that applies to your situation, but it does happen.

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reps appreciated

done.

and just a update on my situation, i already got an ioi from her. she sent me a funny comment on myspace

Dude if she still wants to meet up with you then obviously she still likes you you just have to step your game up a little. What I would've done in your situation was I would've kissed her neck as if I was going to do that in the first place then she would've got so turned on the actual kiss would've happened and probably a little more

another update

saw her in school today and acted normal. still got a lot of ioi's and a couple long hugs. i'm still in this race