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DTF = Down To Fuck
Why the hell didn't you leave the bar with her?? Prime opportunity there. Also, if you're out in a group situation, just isolate her to a dark corner of the bar and start making out with her. Once you get the kiss out of the way, it will be less awkward to escalate going forward. Right now, that damn kiss is just hanging over your heads like a weight waiting to drop. Be the alpha male, and get it done!
Keep in mind I have been working out of the friendzone because she had a BF until recently even though I was never LJBF-ed. Still wasn't totally sure & hated risking a best friend & my best social proof until I was.
I constantly disqualify her, but recently after she broke up started implanting mixed messages, push/pull like
"you're hot, to bad you are like my little sister"
"to bad we could never work out, you got anymore friends to set me up with"
stuff like that. More recently I have been at the bar & stopped talking to her mid sentence to open other sets (which as hot as she is worked great) on purpose to create a jealousy plotline. Trying to create the image I was the prize. That's the stuff that got me to that point IMO. AFC friend is better looking & poured his feelings out there, & got no where, even though she had kissed him long ago back before she knew he was a needy chump.
Probably overthinking it at this point though . When she asked me to to be her "couch buddy" I even said "nahh, I want to sleep on my on bed, you should ask the AFCfriend" ,but I had full intentions to end up there.
Things were going well, but we were at the bar she just all of a sudden got really tired & kind of shut down, which was understandable because she had driven back early from her home hours away from spring break.
I asked her before she left the bar if she was still crashing at the friends house, but I fucked up because I didn't relize another guy in our friend group was standing there "& she was like no I'm driving home when I get back".
I felt like it was to needy at that point to leave, & the shit just needed to happen with no pressure, & the mood was killed. I even got up & opened a set in front of her hoping it would get her woke up & fired up, but that just made her leave. I thought I played it right, but I wish I knew then what I know now.