Hi everyone. Need some advice and opinions from you, people!
Yesterday I went out as usual on Fridays. I opened a set of three guys and one 9/10. Right before, I was told about the girl by the bartender that she used to date the most insulent guy from the bar and is said to be very selfish. So I switched to the "hardcore negging programme." The guys with her were the exact patterns of the worst, boring and friendly AFCs, two of them tried to pick her up by their "friendliness and kindness". Though the girl was quite mean to me in the begining, I did a good job and after ignoring her, taking-over the table and propper negging with smile, I could feel she started to be interested. The more I negged the more she got closer (it was like a drug). The problem was that as I learned the power of the negging in the situation, and as I was a bit drunk, I forgot about the barriers and started insulting her instead of phase shifting. No one from the AFCs did dare to intervene - I was already the AMOG and in the same time the biggest guy at the table (I am 6.4 feet and used to swim competitions - don't think it's boasting, guys - I am still a depressed AFC and I know it
In the end, she almost punched me so I asked whether there was any chance to apologize and settle it down. She told me I would have to buy her a shot at the bar so I did and apologized. But as I got more drunk, it repeated several times. Insult, apologize, shot. It went from extreme negging/insulting to extreme sympathy and apologizing to her. Eventually, I told her she actually looked like a half-gipsy, same as her behaviour (this is really some heavy stuff over here). She got so mad she attacked me physically. I was laughing all over the bar, grabed her and gently returned her (she was absolutely mad-angry punching and kicking all around) to her friends who took her out of the bar (and home?). The barman with barwoman were laughing, said it was fun and gave me high 5. Afterwards, I didn't care about it, actually I thought it was fun too and was kinda satisfied. Until today. In my hangover I realized I went over the top and I regret it. I know where she works (she is a shop assistant - sells flowers - imagine how many guys hit on her everyday with buying her flowers in her shop - that is what she told me with her bored face).
I read somewhere, that neggative emotions work still better than no motions at all. I just don't know - when you go over the top and you make the girl to hate you in the moment (she was shouting at me: "you asshole", etc), is there still a chance to settle it down somehow? I am thinking of visiting her and kind of apologise...
Do you have any suggestions how to go further? Despite my mistake I don't wanna give it up and wanna get her.
THNX!
CHAT
