OK, here's an interesting question for you experienced PUA's:

I'm a professional guy in early 50's, married some 20 years to a very sweet girl, thanks... about a 7... 10 years younger than I am, also professional. No kids. I'm an outdoor freak and a fitness nut (weightlifting and running). New passion is rock climbing.

Just got done with an extended affair with a beautiful 26 year old that i met and fell in love with.

Never been much of a ladies man, but after I broke up with my mistress, I found the PUA materials, started reading and experimenting and, yup, you guys know what you're talking about.... from approaches to inner game to eliminating AA to attraction... whole bit.... works fine. Approached more beautiful women in the last few weeks than I have my whole life.... little tease, little attraction, little body language, little kino...

Now, question: How does one go about being a married PUA?
Thoughts?

My opinion.

If you are a mature man, and your only goal won't be "manipulate a girl and get laid", but rather learn "how to pleasure a woman" (emotionally and physically), I see nothing bad in joining PUA community. It's like going to gym to shape your body so your wife will enjoy you more.

pick up is not about manipulating girls to get laid.............

Chuckles.... points well taken.
Tho i'm not at all sure that one woman is enough for any real man.

Thoughts?

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Concept of Utopia is great although bit naive. I do not want to discourage you, hence I'd love to see, what is pick up in your opinion? Do you really need to know "female opinion on something" 5 times a night? Do you really need all this stuff if whenever you see hot girl the first though you have is "I want to see how good do I look between her legs", and not-manipulative thing would be simply telling her that?

Come on...!

You be discreet. If you travel a lot, I'd use that. Dating local women is bound to get you in trouble.

Unless you're in a type of open relationship...



However, you should ask yourself, is it worth risking my marriage? Am I really happy in my marriage? Evaluate your current situation, only you can do that. If you ARE happily married, and just need variety I'd be very, very careful and not leave tracks. Pay in cash, work on women who are visiting from out of town, or travel yourself.

If you're not happy in your marriage, you should work on fixing it or walk away from it. At 50, I realize that's not an easy thing to do, but if you're not happy, I'd bet that you're projecting that, and your wife's not happy either.

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Oh, i'm happy enough. wife is cheerful, willing and deeply in love. On the other hand, there are so many women out there.... PUA thing opens a candy store mentality, i'm afraid....

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There's so much hurt waiting to explode in this thread.

PUA's will support open relationships, multiple girlfriends, LTRs but there's a difference between that and cheating.

50 is the new 30, so if you're not feeling it anymore, then you know what to do.

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ur still married? If thats the case then no one should even reply to this boy. Men don't cheat on their wives, and unless I read something wrong thats what your doing which would make you a spineless piece of shit...you've got alot bigger problems then trying to pick up girls

chuckles...
who IS this guy?

men and women have been finding and sleeping with lovers outside of marriage for centuries. women more than men, i'm afraid.... genetically programed tendencies or so i'm told.

oh, I can hear the reply now.... 'hell son, a real man beats 'em and then divorces 'em. but he don't never cheat on 'em.'

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It should be noted that PUA techniques work well with any woman, even ones that have been married to you for years.

Since i've been reading and practicing them, my wife is much more attracted to me as I've increased inner game and decreased the wussy response.

All about understanding women...

The other, large question, of course, is the validity of a monogamous relationships at all.... tho this should be dropped in the LTR section of the forum....

cheers.....

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get a divorce, your days of gaming were over when you said " I DO ". If you want to live a double life then you must realize you can only get away with it for so long...

And you most certainly can't get mad when you find your wife doing the same thing... Bad Karma man

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I agree with most of what has been said already.

If you must keep gaming, keep one golden rule. You MUST follow this golden rule ALWAYS or you WILL fuck up...

Never game a girl in your local city/town. Ever.

Good luck!

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Not keeping your promises to other people? That is definitely AFC.

fuck this guy, read any of my posts in the past I dont talk about anybody. But I felt I should say somethin here because hes just that pathetic. Everybodys got their problems and I've got mine, but this guy is sad that hes this late in life and just has no morales or dignity. o well