| With this article I’m going to explore a concept that I think few men really understand.
It’s about the willingness to lose something.
Most men, especially AFC’s, are so used to not being able to get girls that if they finally get one, they hang on to them like their the last girl on earth.
They will do anything and I mean anything to not lose her.
This attitude has obvious disadvantages, to name a few:
- You will not be a challenge for her, so she might not feel attracted to you since you are so available for her
- She may abuse her power and use you
THE FIRST mistake allot of men do is to jump into opportunities to fast if a girl gives them a sign of interest.
If a girl asks a guy what time it is or compliments him, most guys will drop anything they were doing to start flirting with the girl.
It shows her that you are willing to change all your plans, appointments and your whole route just to talk to a girl. To her, it’s obvious girls don’t often talk to you and you really jump in full throttle when you get a small chance. And that’s not a display of High value now is it?
Think of a celebrity when he’s walking trough the streets; allot of people will come up to him and start talking and giving compliments. They usually nod and smile, give a short answer and keep on walking. It’s because this happens to them every day.
If you’ve been applying everything you’ve read in our books, people should be treating you like a celebrity by now as well.
THE SECOND issue I’d like to bring up is that you should be able to completely leave a girl if she’s not willing to comply to your demands or has very extreme demands towards you.
I personally hate smokers, so if girl I’m talking to is smoking I would tell her to not do so. Usually they will be to afraid that you will not like them anymore so they will stop smoking, if not, I let them know that until they put their cigarette out, I’m not talking to them.
This is a win-win situation; if she likes you enough she will comply to your demands and you will have your way and if she doesn’t, it’s obvious that she’s either not that into you or that a relationship with her would be a very unpleasant power struggle.
On the other hand, if she has extreme demands for you, for example wanting you to pay everything for her or to become a vegetarian just like her, you should show her who’s the dominant person in the relationship and simply cut of communication with her because it’s either your way, or the high way.
If you’re in a set of girls talking and their all visibly enjoying your company and flirting with you, it’s hard for the AFC to leave it at that and walk away, because as I mentioned before, he’s not used to getting so much attention.
Walking away from a group can mean that they will leave soon afterwards, another silky smooth talker will start gaming them or anything else that will make you lose them. But your mindset shouldn’t be that you are losing them. They are losing you right? I mean, do you REALLY need THEM to make your day? I don’t think so.
So leave the group at the peak of fun and perhaps return later, or if they really like you, they will come to you. And since they have failed to keep your attention the first time, they will double their efforts the next time.
Besides, trough doing this, you create a natural push pull game which makes girls crazy.
And the last one is a tricky one;
If your game is tight and you display high value, chances are that some girls will come very aggressively towards you and plain out ask you if you want to sleep with them or something similar or their friends will do the talking for them.
Every guy will be delighted by the whole idea of such easy sex but you’re not just any guy, after all, you’ve read The New Breed.
Let’s go over this one again and come up with some reasons why you should say no to such aggressive attempts to seduce.
First off, they might be drunk and having sex with drunk girls doesn’t require any game at all, plus you might get in trouble later on or be known as “that guy who only has sex with wasted girls” not good for your reputation.
Second it might be a shit test from her or for a friend, to see how much value you really have. If you go with her, you pretty much showed that you are someone of low value, since you are just like a dog and have no self respect.
You will come of as a cheap whore who has no dignity or someone that never gets laid and is too eager for sex.
Guys that get offered sex from every angle will often turn down allot of opportunities. This is the image you are displaying to her when you say no in a gentle way. And it’s a good image and they will only end up wanting you more, so remember them for later.
So what I’m getting to, is that you should not be afraid to turn down opportunities, risk losing a girl or something similar, because by now, you should know why this can sometimes have great advantages in the long run and for your reputation.
“No” is a very powerful word...
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