I say this because this HB 9 I am good friends with treats me noticeably differently than 2 of the other guy friends in the friend circle, & we are probably equally as close. She is very affectionate towards both of them, sits in their laps, hugs on them, lays with them etc & ignitates it all. That said she wants nothing to do with either sexually or beyond friends.

I thought she might at 1st, but I am 100% positive not just because she said it many times but because 1 understandably has a big crush from being tooled & has tried to get her to date him & told her how he felt to the point where she has had to quit hanging out with him & stop being affectionate as to not confuse him anymore.

With me on the other hand she is very hands off, & it's got nothing to do with looks, because the other guy she is affectionate with isn't attractive. We are talking maybe a "4", & that's what he rates himself. Great guy, but 1 night when he wasn't around & she was drunk someone brought up something as innocent as flashing him because he has no success with women & she was like N-E-V-E-R. The conviction she said it with it was clear he had no chance.

I kind of think she does see me as possibly more than friend material. Do you think in a backwards way that could explain the lack of affection or how would you explain it? Or maybe she just sees me as more of a man & knows if she did that with me I would esculate it more than these guys?

Dude you are reading too much into this. That happens with One Itis you tend to let your mind dive deep into something that typically isn't there. You can always take your shot to escalate and see what happens. Of course, you stand a chance at screwing up the friendship. I'd rather have a HB9 as a friend to go out with me, and be a "unknowing pivot" but that's just me.

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Trust me, it's not in my head. The way she treats me is different & we all hang out equally as much. There is one other guy that is a good friend in the group & she isn't affectionate with either but it's her best friends boyfriend so that is explainable as to why, & he has clearly noticed the different ways she is with the other 2 & made mention of it when the drama with the one told her how he felt & got pushed out of the group some after he did. He's the one that told her she was too affectionate with him & didn't need to send him those signals if she didn't want to be more. Not just in my head. He knows she isn't like that with either of us, his reason more obvious. Reason with me not as clear.

I think both of you are right.

She may be doing her twisted girl routines on you because she's trying to get you to open her properly or she's just too shy to open you properly, so that's how her interest manifests.

But, whether you are right or wrong it doesn't really matter. Jsmooth is totally correct - either way, you are still reading too much into it. You just need to go for it man .