Hi,

So I've been seeing this girl for a couple weeks. I know she really likes me. But I've taken her out a few times now, and entertained her.

Anyway I told her i was busy for the next few days, but that i got free tickets to the movies, and that i would take her.. but this would be like the 4th time I entertained her.

How do i turn it around so that she knows that I dont pay for a girls attention! and get her to take me out or invest in me?

Thanks!

Tell her you lost the tickets and that you're low on cash from paying bills. See what she says. If she decides she doesnt want to go out then run and find a new one. She's already tainted from you "entertaining" her lol. It's ok, we make that mistake. But if she offers to pay, then tell her you want to make her dinner (cheap and great for bringing her to your place). But do it before you go out to wherever, that way she feels ok being at your place for later when you want to extract to a seduction location (your pad).

Thanks I was thinking of texting her this. Is it to forward?

"Hey Girlsname, Since your so picky about which movie we see maybe you should take me out instead, I wouldnt want to think your trying to take advantage of my good nature, and since it would be your treat you would get to pick whatever movie you like.. except jonas brothers "

How does that sound?

I was also thinking of telling her its a date, but somehow get her to pick me up, and pay for the popcorn and beverages... how can I do this...

Because I would rather lose her then go through the feeling of hanging out with a girl that may think im a chump for trying to hard to please...

Someone please tell me the best plan of attack here.

No, dont call it a date. That puts pressure on the occasion, and pressure is bad, cause it breeds expectation. Have 0 expectation and try to keep her from having any expectations either.

And dont text that either, makes you look like you're on the defensive, and its slightly offensive to her as well, almost accusing her of actually taking advantage of her. Just say something like, "hey i think i might go to the movies on such and such day and have an extra ticket, wanna come?" And then a few hours before the movie, call her and tell her about losing the tickets bla bla bla, and take it from there.

ok I'll do that, thanks man... Damn I wish had had a friend I could ask for pua advice! Everyone I know tries to give me AFC approach advice...

It is hard to get non-AFC advice from people you know. Your friends are most likely AFC's.

I've got two friends who give me non-AFC advice. One is a total dick - but he gives me a good point of view. The other lives 12 hours away but is the self proclaimed king of hitting it and quitting it.

Do I listen to their advice...not always. But they give me insight into non-AFC behavior.

The key to what they are telling me is keep pushing. In most cases you really need to keep pushing these girls out of their comfort zones (especially on the initial meet ups). I've gotten so much better at opening girls, but I tend to bail way too early. My current friends are impressed I'm even opening girls (AFC behavior) while my non-AFC friends aren't impressed at all (nor should they be).

Much like yourself I need to come here for advice and encouragement. Good luck with this one, good luck with the next.

Take her to the movie when its time to get popcorn or whatever, just say to her hey i gotta make a quick call before we go in to watch the movie can you go get me some popcorn and a coke?

If she looks at you expectingly or asks for money just put it straight back at her and say

What are you fucking broke or something? you pay for the popcorn and i will pay for a drink after the movie.

This way you are holding your ground but still rewarding her. I saw mystery say this in one of his clips on youtube.

yeah dude. please dont use that txt. it sounds like an AFC wannabe PUA! lol losing the ticket is a good routine. or for the ultimate test, you could convince her to take you out. say something like, "i've had a bad day and just need to have some fun". if she offers to take you out, then its good. if she doesn't...then move on dude. hope this helps mate!

none of this i lose the tickets... just be like.. when u call her next time..

PUA: you still up for movies?

HB: yeh, you?

PUA: i dunno, dunno if i can handle anymore of you:) - JOKES!.. ur cute.
anyway soo since i got the tickets you get the popcorn cool?

HB: but the tickets are free( shes a leach in this case drop her or be dominant)

PUA: yeh but you owe me:)

HB: what for?

PUA: dude... im a friggen rock star and you get to chill with me:)

.. blah blah blah