Dont get all wild up man but I have the feeling you got a bad self esteem and even right now at the Forum you are trying to show that you are really secure about yourself and dont have any flaws. I bet you get really mad when a girl rejects you or does something you said not to do.
Like 10secons said "and part of being confident is being comfortable admitting that you have flaws" , I think u gotta work on that and stop repressing it.

Regarding gropher topic , I DLV about some minor flaws, when Im already in comfort, thats how u can show ur a genuine person, and connect with a person, showing that you trust her

I dunno if this is a DLV but I LOVE to show that the girl is being the seducer in the convo so she doesnt think Im hitting on her too much, reversed psychology ( like: omg stop seducing me so much, you are giving me reasons to see you tomorrow )

Look Im fucking tired of this stupidness. Read through my post here and stop insulting our intellegence.
Everyone is different. For this reason some acts of behaviour are seen as a DHV to some people, but could be a DLV to other people. For example being a clown in a circus will be a DHV to some children, but it will scare others horribly - so it becomes a DLV. You cant just list the things that are a DHV and arn't a DHV. They are not only dependant on the person, but also dependant on the context. I saw somebody say nearer to the start of the thread that vunerability is a DLV. PLAH. IF IT IS A DLV WHY CAN YOU CONNECT OVER IT??? A DHV IS SOMETHING THAT IS RESPONDED TO IN A POSITIVE MANNER. If at the start of the communication you showed that you are vunerable - maybe in A1 - you would be placed in the friend zone. In actual fact its not a bad thing - but it is to us.

Ok lets say for a second that you can categorize what is and what is not DHV. And that DLVing is attractive. IF IT IS ATTRACTIVE THEN ITS A DHV.

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mifka, thanks for the psycho analysis. I really appreciate the effort. But you are mistaken.

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We are all over the little argument, its time that you stop trying to be the center of the post and actually contribute.


Anyways,
I as well think that in some instances telling a DLV story can show that you A. are opening up and sharing some secret wit her, and B. are showing that you have had embarrassing stuff in the past, but you are capable of overcoming it,

Best of luck to you Sincerelee

-Dre

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"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
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I've done this before and it gets great results if it's funny. It has worked for me in the past but since I've read MM I have tended not to use it as much unless I'm in the comfort stage or later.

I can't remember who said this, but if you said something like wow, im stating to get fat, or just say something kind of negative about your clothes or appearance. Because at the same time It DHV's you by giving her the vibe that your not worried about trying to impress her.

So to get back to the REAL subject:

When i date woman, 9 out of 10 times the "ex-girlfriend" comes up. So when they see me (strong, handsome,) they dont believe my girlfriend broke up. So they joke around a bit, and then i tell with a complete serious face how i even cried when i was making my way back home. There reaction is priceless! Most of the times a hug or a kiss for feeling sorry to bring it up.

Wow, we are so fortunate to be graced a post by God, aren't we Sincerelee? I never realised he needed to learn Pick Up Skills though!

And yes, DLVing is a type of disqualification, which can be good in initial stages and can be made up for later. DLVing also shows that you are human whch allows her to feel attracted to you.

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