A few weeks ago I met a girl at a friend's party. She took the initiative to come up and introduce herself, but I wasn't sure if she was coming on to me or just being friendly. I got her number that night, and a few days later I invited her to hang out at the beach, but she said she had to pack for a trip she was going on the next day (lame excuse if you ask me). This made me a bit worried, as she showed so much interest early on and then chose to spend the day with her suitcase rather than me. Now I'm not sure what to do. What if she WAS just being friendly and didn't see me as anything more than an average guy? If I keep asking her to hang out, I fear I will appear too eager; after all, she should be the one chasing me, not the other way around, right? Any advice or techniques on getting her to agree to hang out without coming on too strong?

My only advice is: don't bother anymore now.

I used to make that mistake pretty often.

As my personal rule of thumb, if I happen to call a girl, I'll do so ONCE. That's it. From then on, she's the one who has to take the opportunity. After all, I already gave her the privilege of my attention.

If this girl lacks enough vision to appreciate you, just keep moving and do not waste your energies.

Like lots of other guys from the forum would tell you, YOU are the prize. Not Generic Girl #42726.

Need to DHV -display a higher value.

Do not call her back. She has your number and if need be - she knows your friend and can get it from them.

Easy way to tell if she was being friendly vice interested - did she go up to everyone at that party and introduce herself? Didn't think so.

Listen, very often women do have shit to do - it may be legit and you will get your chance - patience - if not screw it and move on.

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I got to get into this dude's pelt and crawl around for a few days. Who's the gopher's ally? His friends. The harmless squirrel and the friendly rabbit.

Thanks guys! The advice worked - I stopped thinking about her all together, knowing that I would bump into her one of these days, and to my surprise she called me!

ya man just forget about her... if ur gna be a PUA u gta get over stuff fast... go to another party, bar, club etc... and find another HB to hook up with..

Skotch

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