(before I start, I'll try to keep this as non-graphic, and short, as possible, if it's too long, just read the last paragraph) (she refers to any girl I've done stuff with, not a particular one)

I'm not that experienced, or good, and I want to get better. I also was thinking, before I had any sex at all, I had no idea, at all, what to do. Things like when giving oral, she starts really pressing against your face, making it impossible to breathe, so I had to stop for a break. And when she starts moving her hips fast up and down, it's really hard to keep your head there, like should you just pin her hips down with your hands? I also always seem to fall off the end of the bed when doing oral, how do I stop this? I'm not doing it intentionally, but we both seem to end up at the bottom of the bed. And, having only had sex in poorly light places or when drunk, I haven't had a really good look down there. So most of it's been by feel. Also, stuff like oral, how long should you be going on for before sex? Obviously, it varies, but as a rough figure? Should you be aiming to make her come from it or just get her really turned on before sex? And if she does oral on you for a while after you've gone down on her, should you stop her before you come? And if so, how, just grab her and pull her up towards you? Because most of the time, they dry up a lot while they're giving me oral, so I have to do it again, then sex. And condoms, when do you put them on? Right before any contact between it and vagina, or before any foreplay at all? Who puts it on? Who puts it in? Afterwards, when you take it out, where should you put the condom, if there's not a bin in the room? Just put it beside the bed and shift it in the morning? And if she does something that really doesn't feel good, how do you tell her, the right way?

And foreplay. I can do this, but I wonder if I should be a little more aggressive? Because I do kissing and stuff everywhere, and girls like it, a lot, but I never bite/nibble, because I really don't know how hard to be, so I just avoid it.


These were all things I wondered before I had sex, some of them I still don't know the answer to. There are more but I don't want to make this post huge, I just gave examples as they came into my head.

So is there a book/website that would have answers to this kind of question? Because I would have loved to have known all this stuff rather than finding out the hard way. A comprehensive guide, "sex for dummies" if you like. I really don't know where to start, most of the books I've seen is just like advanced sex positions and stuff.

Thanks

I was googling, and found there is actually a book called, "sex for dummies". Got it, and it's rubbish, full of things like send flowers to a girl every day, and that way she'll marry you because she'll realise that you'll take more care of her than anyone else would. A lot of it is things like abortion, natural protection, don't have one night stands, it's a dreadful book.

uh, the oral thing:

they say, if possible, get her to cum that way. since lots of girls can have multiple orgasms. If she aint' one of those girls, you try to get her as wet as humanly possible.

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Thanks.

And another thing, kind of related. I always thought I had an average sized penis, I've always had hassle putting on condoms, unrolling them they get stuck, I thought it was just down to not enough practice.

But, today I measured it, and it's 7 and a half, maybe 8 inches long, and just under 6 inches in girth at the thickest part. Which is above average I know. So would bigger condoms make getting them on easier? Or am I not big enough for that? Don't want them falling off halfway through. When I eventually get them on, regular sized ones feel ok, not painfully tight, but not that comfortable either and they don't help my erection. No where near me sells bigger ones so I'd need to buy them off the net I think.

Look for trojan magnums. They sell them at target here... lol

I would suggest checking here:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/

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