Last night I slept with a girl who is one of my best friends. We've been friends for over seven years and nothing has happened before. But last night she ended up sleeping over, and we ended up kissing and eventually we fucked.

What do I do next to ensure we remain friends? Also, how can I tell if she wants more out of our relationship than just friendship?

In desperate need of help,
B-Man

Well first off,,, if it was a good experience for you, I would put a smile your face. It's funny how even us guys can can give sex that taboo, guilt ridden, now we got to get married feel and that's too bad. Good sex is a good thing.

If I as in your shoes, next time I saw her, I'd tell her it was a really good experience that you enjoyed it a lot. Because that's what it ought to be.

Next, you guys are friends so talk. Having sex doesn't change everything, our wierd reaction to it does. And it doesn't need to be a weird converstion, have some fun with it and get a laugh.

The sex was either just a fluke or a reflection of something that changed between you guys. So call your buddy up and talk.

Good luck

Sex brings man and women closer. It changes things.

I'm not sure if you want to just keep her as a friend or not, but it is absolutely impairative that you communicate to her about this. Be honest about how you feel. If you're not, it will bite you in the ass later, I can almost guarentee that.

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yeah...you HAVE to be honest.

Assuming "hey, she obviously didn't think it meant anything" could fuck you over harder than saying "hey, what we did meant something to me"

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Yea, I don't feel guilty about it. It just never seemed like it was something that could happen. I'm in shock about it really. I'm meeting with her tomorrow and hopefully by then I will have decided if I want more or just want to remain friends.

B-Man

Tell her exactly what you just told us.

You don't regret it, but you never saw it coming. You're in shock about the whole thing, so you don't really know where you're at right now.

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I just thought I'd post a status update in case anyone was interested. We've hung out a couple of times since the hook up. At first it was sort of weird cause we were in a situation where we couldn't really talk about it.

But now we are all good. Its funny, this girl is absolutely gorgeous. She's a model. HB8.5. And I'm not attracted to her at all. We just fucked once and we are right back to being best friends. I never would have expected that.

B-Man

That's cool. I know guys who have done exactly what you have and fucked their friendship up.
If it's all good afterwards, why not fuck her again?!

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