I've been reading these forums and one concept I keep reading about is that it doesn't matter what you say to a girl, rather it is how you make her feel with the words you say or something like that.

I vaguely remember an example of this where the poster was relaying a (hypothetical) conversation he had with a girl about his pet hamster and how he's scared it might be a superhero and he might get kidnapped?

I understand this at a really superficial level- of introducing emotions and feelings into the conversation. I feel like I'm missing out on things.

In short. How should you make a girl feel in a conversation so that she is attracted to you? And how is this done?

People like (and are like) people who like them. You need to be genuinely interested, if you can fake that then you'll be good.

Emotions do not need to be verbally spoke in order for you to have a deep connection with someone. Once you've gained that initial spark and she is attracted/compelled by you, then by having a normal, natural conversation, she will feel more comfortable with you. You can use structured routines, or be natural, but the idea is that as you get to know the girl more, you become more and more interested (because she is special...).

Those in NLP would say you are pacing and leading. You are hitting her where she's at (not THAT interested in her), and by leading the conversation and your own physiology/mentality to a place of fascination, she will surely follow (assuming enough rapport/attraction is there). This is slow game, not really my style, and should be done if you are looking to secure day 2's. IMPORTANT: You must sexually escalate and show desire, or you can land in the LJBF zone really really quickly.

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