To make a long story short I met this girl through work about 18 monthes ago and we went out for a little while 2 monthes after we met. Having our ups and down we have remained talking through text, this past month we have been texting everyday and hung out last week and hopefully tomorrow. Anyways to the real stuff. She always comes to me when she needs to vent or advice (I know not good), she has done a few things that have made me totally question our friendship, mostly when shes drunk but whatever i have forgotten. Even though I think of her as one of my best friends and would do pretty much anything if she needed it I really have no reassurance that she will do the same or even close for me. She is flirty like a GF type but draws a line where it is just friends.

She is an awesome girl but she always talks about other guys to me, her eyes sparkle when she talks about them which makes her look bored when shes talking to me, it would be nice if she had a crush on me but I would be really happy with her saying that I am important to her in some way and put in a little effort herself.
I need to know how much she cares about me, and what she thinks about me, although there are infinite answers I thought of these.

1.The guy she really wants but dosent want to take a chance
2. A brother type figure, were friends but more than that is impossible
3. Ok friend, hes cool when Im bored but kinda annoing
4. Show off, I brag about him to my friends I used to date him (shes 1 year younger).

Anyways breaking almost ALL of the posts on this forum my friend that I am closer with than the girl told me next time im with her just tell her how I feel and how Im confused about what she thinks this relationship is and then ask her to be completely honest and tell me. Should I do that or does anyone have a better idea? I know its risky and if its not good this friendship will have to be over. I put in almost all of the effort, always text her, keep the convo going, invite her to parties, I shouldnt be doing that anymore and if she really cares she will put in more effort than she has. I know this sounds extreme but if she dosent stop trying to use me like a tool I dont want anything to do with her.

your in friend-zone for sure. your afc friend is giving you bad advice. if you are willing to risk the friendship id say show her, don't tell her. she'll know how you feel when you kiss her. work up to the kiss though by using lots of kino. if she rejects the kiss then you know for sure she doesnt like you. but if you tell her you like her before making a move shes going to say "oh, thanks" and it'll be the most awkward and weird day you've ever experienced.

I agree with Thyla.

You sound like you already have a decent emotional connection. Just build up some kino.

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