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Alright, but is it necessary to allot ourselves in a ranking system in comparison to others?
NOT at all
necessary . . . but, how often do you see complete newbies post up bs like, "I'm a PUA! I've been gaming this girl like this and like that and like this and like that . . ." - and when you get around to it, he's some kid who's never went out on a date?
What I believe is absolutely necessary(if you actually want to progress at all) is to be honest with YOUR self. And this is true with everything in life. Would you ever dare to go to the North Shore in Honolulu and tell yourself that you've been big wave surfing for 10 years if all you have is 2 Waikiki rental weekends under your belt? Go ahead and paddle out there.
Now here's the little problem. When the kids come on this forum or go out with their friends . . . and they tell others that they're ALL THAT, soon enough, they believe it for themselves. Well, why even bother learning anything? And when they ask for advice, it's a pain in the neck to decipher through the bullshit to even help them even a little bit.
On this very forum, I have written up some heartfelt, long winded advice just to have the OP go, "Yeah, but I can't call her up. . . "
And I've actually met some ppl, (through this site included) where they wanted to "sarge together". ("Oh, I can open sets. I can do this, I can do that." We go out and they hide out in a little corner all night long) Had they told me EXACTLY where they were in their game, I would have set things up so that we would both have a much better time.
And the opposite is true. Sometimes, guys have plenty of experience and simply over think things for one reason or another. They make it seem like they're clueless when in fact, all it takes is, "Dude, stop feeling sorry for yourself and pick up the phone . . . dial . . ."
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In my opinion this could potentially lead to self-dissatisfaction, and can be especially discouraging to people envious of our social circle's generated ideal.
I think the opposite is true. To know exactly where you are is the beginning of growth. It allows you to set goals. It allows you to measure improvement. It gives others a reference point to offer proper advice.
To lie to yourself and others can only lead to dissatisfaction as it's the spark that ignites a cycle of miscommunication and stagnation.