Okay been seeing this girl and she blew me out for a kiss the other day twice although we've made out before, but i got 3 pecks on the lips later on, im getting the right signals but shes a bit of a tease and if you like she is currently the prize.

I have a few ideas on how to reverse this so I am the prize but wondered if you guys had any suggestions?

thanks fellas:)

First it starts in your mind. If you view her as the prize then she is the prize. If you view yourself as the prize, then you'll start acting like it. This boils down to inner game. She's already seen that you see her that way and that's a problem. Any sudden change somewhat looks needy to control the "frame."

Still, basically to get the frame back and be the prize ignore her for a while, this gives you control. Then reapproach and try again.

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Thanks JSmooth, take a step back a bit.

instead of her teasing u, you should tease her, and bro u cant put her on a pedistel, she'll see it rite away and lose respect for you because your 2 easy to get, show her that she should be gratefull for beeing with you

dude, that boat has sailed, if you know she's the prize and she knows that she's the prize, then it's already to late. might ass well kiss her ass til the end.

I don't think it's too late. Next time she comes in for a kiss do the same thing she did to you. That should get you back into the "I am the prize" frame of mind as well as showing her that she might not be the absolute best/most desireable thing on the planet and it drives girls NUTS when this happens. (just my humble opinion)

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Yeah its not like that at all, she hasnt realised it although she teased me the other night when i went for a kiss and she pulled away just to "Ruin the moment" as it were.

She's in total control... got to love it.....

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If she is in total control how can I reverse this?

Instead of you trying to kiss her....

Next time she tries to kiss you, don't give it to her, straight away.
Tease her.

Hunter/hunted.

Change the frame in your mind, and the rest will follow.
I mean, do you seriously believe you're the only one who wants to make out

She wants it, and if she gets it easily from you, she'll feel she has won you over, and you're no longer that attractive to her.

Learn to keep back a little, Mirror her a little.
Tell her she won't get a kiss, but you can almost-kiss. (like move in to kiss, but not allow your lips to touch. I don't remember who wrote about this in here, but I've tried it and it's great )

Lol yeah almost kiss! Sinn wrote it, works a treat, I could feel her coming towards me to kiss me.

And yeah as for me not being the only one to make out, I never really thought of it that way thanks Wolf

also Im going to the capital with her not this saturday next saturday, I asked her to come because I wanted some help picking clothes and would enjoy her company

I've already got some ideas about teasing her.

but one last question before we close the subject. If I am holding her and its a really intimate moment say "in the capital under one of the most famous statues and watching the sunset." and im holding her and we're about to kiss. If I just drop her and go "come on lets go" wont that ruin my chances?

I guess it wont but I would like your opinion Wolf

hehe, That would be a great moment to almost kiss. just go in for the kiss, but keep your lips just out of reach for her when she leans in, and smile

She's playing the game, so you should keep at least the same level as she.

(Look at it this way, either you cut it short, or she does. The one who does is the one who becomes the prize.
Just like if the guy puts up LMR the women will, most times, either get really insecure about themselves, or seriously pissed off.

If you feel cocky, you might want to try that once, just to have the experience.
Women typically handle LMR much worse than men.)

But back to the chase,
Have her chase you a little as well.


I don't think it'd ruin your chances as much as it would seriously vex her.
(Imagine being the girl in that situation, everything is perfect, perfect moment for a romantic kiss, and then the guy goes "let's go buy ice-cream"... WTF?? )

Hahaa you talk sense Wolf

glad to have that cleared up

Cheers everyone

Oops sorry I thought your question had already been answered.

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Teasing from a girl can drive you crazy but it'll keep you coming back once you get a little bit.
You can do the same thing back to her have fun with it, but don't over- do it.

I had girl who liked to tease with kissing she'd get the seductive eyes going then I'd lean in she'd pull back and back then give a peck(like a bird) and start smiling about it, then we'd get a good long kiss going then she'd pull back. I started the whole teasing with the kissing first and she took note and used it against me, lol.

so next time she decides to tease u when you're moving in for the kiss, then decides she wants to peck you push her off playful "Ah i dont want it no more" then come with a peck of your own

Good Luck with that

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You are not the prize. She isn't the prize. That is your problem. Already defining a winner and loser . Remember, friction and competition never take care of what really needs taken care of. Life isn't as technical as you think. Life is meant to be mysterious. Relationships are meant to be mysterious. Think in those terms and you will be much more relaxed and understanding of the uncertainty of life and love.

The key point is to not view things in black and white terms. Be you and let it fly. If you are who you are it won't matter what happens. You won't even need her!

Btw, those are really big "milk makers" in Reo's avatar. I bet those puppies are just waiting to gush milk all over