OK, here's the deal.

This is about YOU.

Yeah, you.

You are close to being a sucker.

You are close to being pussified.

YOU are very, very, very close to... I hate to say it, the dreaded "one-itis."

Now, as much as I hate to resort to PUA terms to describe a phenomenon, sometimes these neologisms really get right to it.

It's wonderful to find a girl you think about all the time, one who makes you feel like a King and treats you like a gold-plated Toy Westie with all-Prada doggie outfits.

That's great.

BUT...

It's only great when you totally and unabashedly Love that girl because she DOES wonderful things for you. She has to treat you just as well as you treat yourself, and as well as you treat those you care for.

It's all balance, young grasshopper. That's Love. The more Love you make, the more you can take.

One-itis is something different. It's a disease, a disease of the mind. And it's easy for any ol' Doctor of Love (like me... PhD work specializing in hot monkey lovin') to diagnose, cos the symptoms present like this:

* Boy likes girl
* Girl kinda shows interest in boy
* Boy does nice things for girl
* Boy wishes he had more time with girl
* Girl doesn't do nearly as many nice things for boy as boy wishes for
* Boy secretly dreams of flying away with girl on Unicorns to Pleasure Island... and girl has no idea
* Boy starts to resent girl for not recognizing his love sure and true, and girl starts to stay farther and farther away, or treat him worse and worse to drive him away, cos she can smell that desperation like a fart in a car


Now, you may present with only a few, or all of these symptoms. But if you find you have more than three, consult your expert Love Doctor, Sean Messenger, because you, my friend, have a critical case of one-itis.

Fortunately, modern science has come up with a cure.

And the best thing is that cure isn't restricted to some overpriced, fluff-filled DVD set that clogs up your bookcase and embarrasses the fuck out of you any time someone (esp. a girl) sees it and asks "is this stuff like that show 'The Pickup Artist?' that stuff is so weird!"

Nope. This cure is available to you over the counter, at the low low price of Nuthin'

Here is it.

In order to prevent the onset of One-itis (and this is especially important now, as Valentine's Day is the peak of One-itis season), take the following precautions:

The Two-Step Cure for One-itis

* Unless you are in a sexually monogamous relationship (and BOTH of you know it) with a girl you care about, always have more than one girl you are testing the waters with, flirting, dating, smooching, approaching, whatever
* If you are in a sexually monogamous relationship with a girl you care about (and did I mention those are the fucking tits!?), never ever forget that there are more beautiful women in the world than dreamt of in your philosophy, Horatio. Never stop appreciating the beauty and sexiness of women all around you. I mean, don't be a douche about it and blatantly check out other chicks while you are arm-in-arm with your sweetie, but don't shut yourself off from feeling the sexual, life-giving energy of women all around you in this world.



That's it. Two simple steps to ensure that you don't become a victim of the most dangerous threat to our balls and boners in the world, One-itis.


This year, remember that Valentine's Day is One-itis season, and keep yourself healthy. Balance, my son. After all, if you are stricken with One-itis, you aren't going to be able to make any women happy, or crazy with desire, or over-the-moon in Love.

And if you can't make women Love you, well, you are just wasting your time on this lovely earth, my friend.


Remember, treat others as you would have them treat you (and if they aren't treating you well, DEMAND that they do!)


Let's be careful out there.


Love,

Sean

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"War is not the answer. Love is."

Nice cure. I thought it was going to be like, put your junk in a vise. Rotate handle, as pain and tension increases please repeat the following phrase.

"I will not fall for one particular woman ever again." 1/4 Turn "I will not fall for one particular woman ever again." 1/4 Turn.... Stop turning when you get the point of the exercise.

One Love,

Jon

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My cure for oneitis is my cure for anything I have a possible addiction to...remove it completely from my life.

I did that with my oneitis, and now, though she has been downgraded through chemistry and my own improved discretion, she is trying to game me. I hadn't seen her in over six months.

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A LOT of guys around here need to read this post. there is a oneitus epidemic out there.

I think oneitus is kinda like a psychological addiction. if you pay very close attention you can kinda feel it coming on, and it is at that point that you have to make a decision to either resist, or let it take over you.

its kinda like a gambling addiction. imagine you're winning at the black jack table a little bit, and then you start losing. you stick around because you want to win more, but sometething inside you says it might not be a good idea. if you win you're money back and you are up a little bit, why don't you stop here? most people keep playing and end up losing lots of money. that's why casinos make money.

since there are people in my extended family who suffered from addictive personalities, i made a conscious effort to not fall into that trap. I developed the ability to detect those addictive feelings, resist them, and then redirect my attention towards something positive. thats why i always make money every time i go to a casino. anyone can do this.

the same tactics need to be applied for oneitus feelings:

identify - resist - redirect

This summer, my first trip to a casino, I walked away each day richer than I started.

The slots would pay off just enough to hook the normal gambler, and I played along enough to win. Then I would get up and walk around for a while. At the craps table, I was almost psychic.

The table was getting suspicious when I would ask for everything off the table that I had bet (except what I copuld not have back, of course) and the next roll would be a loser craps.

The first time, they thought nothing of it. After the fourth time in an hour's time, they were suspicious, especially when others mimicked my move...every time I removed my chips, so did everyone else.

I can't explain it, other than those several years of playing AD&D with my buddies must have paid off.

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Nice post Sean. A must read for newbs.

I think it would be handy to have a should-read sicky guide for newbs to read as a convenience. I think a lot of guys struggle or just get frustrated and quit too early thinking maybe this is bullshit, or only works for some guys.

Fact is PUA techniques work for all guys, they have to work for all guys because it's just a reflection of the reality of human nature. Done correctly, good things are going to happen. End of story.

First off, I would suggest to newbs to forget about going out and meeting women straight off. That can be a negative experience. Can you imagine going out and laying a "neg" on some hot chick, and she picks up, in 2 seconds, that you're not the real deal, and laughs right in your freaking face? That puts a negative association on what we're doing.

The newbs gotta know going in that no matter what happens with the hot babe it has no big affect on him. If he get's laughed at, it doesn't matter, because he's just enjoying the closer view of her tits. If she's totally into him, it doesn't matter, because he knows he's worth it and he still doesn't "need" her.

I'd suggest to Newbs to get their personal acts together first. FInd your weak points and fix them. There are techniques for that. Make yourself a better person. Actually get to the point of really being proud of yourself. That's a pretty good standard. Build real confidence,,, it can't be faked.

Before the newb hits the field he's got to lose the "need". Need kills everything and leads to one-itis.....

Cheers fellas..

Nightrider, I have to disagree about newbies not going out right away. Learning PUA skills is a step by step process.

Instead of throwing them oput to the wolves, set their expectations.

For example:
Today's lesson...approach.
-Task..open three people using the same simple opener. Do not expect anything to come of it, just open the set and thank them for their response.

Day 2...approach with a time constraint.
-Task...open 3 people and make sure you tell them you only have a minute.

So forth. Waiting until one knows a lot will cause major AA in many people.

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I like the gambling angle for a one-itis comparison... However I would like to alter the feel of that idea just a little bit by asking the most simple... and complex question in the world. "Why?" Why is it that the casino wins if you continue to sit for long enough? Simple! The odds are in the casinos favor! I would say chasing a one-itis is like chasing that proverbial 'jackpot'... the longer you go the more you feel like you need to keep going because you must be getting close now... when in reality the only thing thats increasing is your desperation... but you dont want to go... you've seen it before... you get up and as your leaving someone else sits down where you just were and BAM! Jackpot! It's exactly that kind of thinking that keeps you down though... And even if you did when... it probably isnt quite as magical as you think... you have taxes... and sure its nice for awhile... but it wont last forever and then what?I guess what I'm getting at is... if something is an overall losing proposition... you need to walk away.

Lee you make a couple very good points. That is a great way to go about doing things. But it is a planned approach, which is what's needed.

I think guys have to have general understand of the bigger picture to have a good start. But exactly like you said, don't over-do the prep.

You brought up, AA. A guy needs to know what's going on with that before they start. They need to know that it's normal and can be turned around. Worst thing is to not be familiar with AA and get hit with it in the field and think "WTF! I don't got the balls to do this".

So that's what I advocate, a general understand to start.

lol I must be some kind of asshole... I always made my students open about 500 people over the course of a couple hours first time out if they were new and had AA... Nothing like overload training IMO

Wow Doc,,, that sounds like a pretty fun idea to me!

If that don't teach you that AA is all in your hed, I don't know what would!

I like it.

One thing that i have found that helps me out with one-itis, if you are not able to go out and FTOW, then not masturbating for a while allows your mind to fill itself with dirty thoughts which rarely include the object of the one-itis and allows your mind to explore the other better possibilities you can have.

Doc, I agree, getting them out and opening sets as much as possible will do them the best. I chose those numbers because I was mimicking Stye's Rules 30 day challenge.

Friday, one of my guys was getting AA. I challenged him to a game on the subway. We first had to look into 3 groups of people's eyes and count the number of people with blue eyes. It didn't matter who won. It got him opening sets without thinking about it.

The next stop, our contest was to ask as many people as possible their names and explain that we had a contest to count the number of people with the letter J in their name.

By the third stop, he was opening sets without AA.

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Interesting read, im obviously a newb and have suffered from one-itis but ive got a question. If the answer is to just keep looking for someone else all the time, then what if the girl in question is more than a perfect 10 and all the other girls are just an 8, lets be honest a perfect 10 doesnt come along that often. Why should you settle with just getting an 8? It might seem like a typical newb question but seriously i think that i shouldn't have to settle with anything less than perfect in my eyes.

^^^your not going to like this answer. There's no such thing as a perfect 10, if anything you made her a perfect 10 by calling her that. Look around and you'll find that other girls can be 10s too.

This info was helpful right now especially for what I'm dealing with at this point.
Its cool now cause it's like for me I had one itis and it was like having one itis made me not be able to have it again cause I already how it happens and it just came naturally to not get attached like that.

Thanks

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