If its to long go to the last three paragraphs.

So, I first made out with girl on Holloween and things were going pretty well till about mid december. She lives in NYC and is about an hour commute for me. So we really only got to see each other when I would go to NYC or she would come home (we went to HS together didnt really know each other until now-6 yrs later)

Anyways, about late december things started to get messed up. I would go to NYC and she would be sick or she would come home. There was always something. I messed up to on NYE i h/u with a another girl when I was supposed to hang with her- I dont think she found out (the other girl was a mutual friend). I know i was stupid

This past week I sent her a message saying "Hey we havn't hung out in a while what should we do about that?" We message back and forth for a while and we decide to meet up on friday night. On Friday, I tell her I need to meet a friend for a drink and than I will meet up with her. We text back and forth through out the night and try to meet up and eventually she says "I have a friend from LA visiting so not tonight"

At this point im pretty pissed. For the past few months ive been going to NYC to try and meet up with her. I send her a text and voicemail that I regret. And the next day I sent her a Facebook message pretty much saying "If your into me we will try again. If not let me know" She hasn't responded yet.

So is there anyway to salvage this relationship? Even if its just as friends. I am going to see her again- We have a lot of mutual friends and I'd like to be on Ok terms with her. I know messed up. I was just fed up with the situation.

Depending on what the text and voicemail said that you sent would be a lot
more helpful. But, seeing how she is avoiding your calls and texts then you
just might have gave her a weird vibe that she DID NOT LIKE.

You should try sending her another text like, "I know I freaked out, lets just
be friends. Nothing more nothing less."

And see if that gets a reply. If it does, then don't push her for at least a week
or so, let her "freak shield" die down before you game her again.

The TEXT and VOICEMAIL you sent will give us more to work with here to
determine what she felt when she read it and heard it.

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I can't remember the voicemail i sent. By that point in time i was really drunk. I just remember being pissed. And it had to of freaked her out.

The text i sent was "I don't know what your deal is but this situation is f'd" short for fu*ked

I think i'll give her a week and next monday or tuesday i'll send her that message.

I would like to be more than just friends with her though.

Thanks though.

You were drunk when you left her a V-mail... LMAO That is not a good thing
to do my man... LOL

You should just forget about this girl for around 4-5 months so she can forget
about what you done.

Then come back to her when you have tightened up your game a little more.

Find some more chicks to game on so that you can learn from TRIAL & ERROR
like many of us here have done.

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I know drinking as much as i did wasnt smart. When i realized she was giving me the run around again, i just started taking shots b/c i knew i wasnt going to see her that night and it would'nt matter how drunk i got.

But that backfired b/c it made me get mad and and text/call her more.

What I did really wasnt that bad though. Its not like i called her a slut. I just called her out on playing games with me (I cant stand when girls do this) And i know i did this in the wrong way.

I will take your advice though. Thanks.

It may be better to just cut this one loose for a while. I have been put through the ringers by a girl that I really liked too and finally had enough. She kept me hangin on a string and even when Id had enough and started going out with other girls, she would give me guilt about that. Finally I had to just create some space b/w us to get my shit together.

I try to follow the rule that if you spend more of your time unhappy rather than being happy, its probably not the best thing for you to be involved in.

Change of plans: She just sent me this message-

"Heyy,

I hope you had a good rest of the weekend. I am sorry we didn't get to meet up on Friday night. I was with my best friend from NY who now lives in LA and in all honesty I never get to see her. Since she was staying with me, I had to what she wanted and couldn't just leave her.

I would really like to see/hang out with you soon."

Where do I go from here? Should I give it another shot or just cut her out for a while?