Okay guys, I'd like to start off saying that I'm a sophomore in High School.
And I don't need advice like "You're just making excuses because you have anxiety." Please.


So.. I'm in all these Honors classes and AP classes and I really don't have a life on weekdays. (Sunday night-Thursday Night)
My parents won't let me EVER go out. It's been this way since freshman year started. Not ONCE, seriously.. not ONCE have I gone out on a weekday.

Big surprise: I'm Asian!!! I know right?

Sometimes I really just want to have closer relationships with people and just hang out with every single day of my life. I don't feel like I'm living my life to the fullest. My schoolwork piles my social life down with making me study and do homework for 4-5 hours every single weekday.

I'm nothing close to being in a social state, and all that alone time just puts me in a self-trance of being slightly depressed and anti-social. I can't really text friends, because I don't have texting, and I'm no longer in the mood to have phone conversations with friends and girls, nd I'm pretty much non-existent in society after school.

With that said, I just feel like I need to change my lifestyle.
But I can't. Don't tell me that I need to convince my parents, I won't listen to you.


My weekends are fine. I hang out with a ton of friends, jam with my band, go out to concerts and have a blast. It's what makes me sane.
But whenever I want to get into a relationship with a girl, I suddenly find myself very held-back from escalating.
I tell myself "I can't even call her, see her, text her or anything in the weekdays, will making her my girlfriend make me and her happier or sadder?"

I never expected my weekdays to get in the way of my weekends in terms of having a GIRLFRIEND. I mean it kills my social life enough to not have a solid social circle, but I never thought it would hold me back from a girlfriend.

So... I understand if you tell me that I'm stuck and that there really are no other options for me. I guess I just wanted to tell it to the world. Get it off my back. You know??

Thanks a ton guys,
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I know, you dont want to hear it but listen to me.
you have to convince your parents otherwise, it will stay like this till you move out. You have to change it ruins your social life right now...

Just explain them your situation. Tell them your life sucks and you need to change it. Normally parents dont want their sons to suffer so you will be able to make a compromise... if your grades are good, there shouldnt be a problem (are they?)

i hope you listened to me


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Dude I know it's going to be like this unless SOMETHING changes.

I've gotten into sooooo many arguments and discussions with my parents about this.

They just won't budge. I mean everything else they've let me have if I would talk to them about it enough times, but this I guess they're just too serious about.

Maybe I'll to try to get a relationship going, I just can't ruin my grades....

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why wouldnt you be able to call or text ur girl during the weekdays? well tell them you want a girl and all ur asking for is to be able to call and text during the weekdays. that shouldnt be too bad and if they deny you then say some shit to ur dad about him wanting you to be some kinda queer or something cause he wont let u hook up with girls.

Well we talk about this every day lol.
My dad's like Get yourself a girlfriend.
I tell him I would if he'd let me take care of her on weekdays too.
end of convo.

and i dont have texting :/
i call people every now and then, but for the most part i'm dead.

idk.. i'll try to get into a relationship and see how things go.

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K I'm in high school to so i kinda know what your going through and i have a parent who won't let me do anything and uess what i'm compeletly okay with it. I only hang with my friends on weekends and i only play games study or talk on the telephone when i'm home cause guess what it's NOT that big of a deal. Sometimes parents won't budge in thier beliefs so when life gives you lemons you make lemonade.. or orange juice, whatever you like.

Anyway back to the issue i would suggest a change in the way you look at things and how you do it. Me i decided that being pessimistic only hurt me and was't getting anywhere so i changed my style i got more colorful clothes ( do some research on color psycholoy) take a shower as soon as i wake up strecth, you know just stuff to make me feel better. I also heard of a challenge it's where you must go ten days without enteraining a negative thought and if you do it for more than 2 minutes you must start over. There's also various charkra techinques that you can use to lift your energy.

Now about being scared to approach just think of it this way what do you got to lose? You learn from every experience whether good or bad. I ha trouble calling to but i use to just close my eyes put my hand over the call button press it then open my eyes and et on the phone when someone answered then i built from this. Plus you may not be "ready" for a girl instead just flirt around with a bunch of others trust me its way more fun. If your friends tease you for not having one say " I can't limit myself to one girl can I" and son. Hope this helps dude.

Nice post V2.
I've never actually cared that much about my lifestyle. I mean it's pretty nice.
But right now it's stopping my ability to make girls my girlfriends, which is something I really want at the moment.
So you know, if I can change my lifestyle, why not? ya know?

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I've made a couple of dates over the weekend, right now my intent is to ask them out.. soo I'll see how that goes.

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I also am in highschool and hardly ever do stuff on weeknights, which is pretty common with kids whose parents are home at night. But i also have a great social life at school. Just make the most of the time you are in school, be confident and make lots friends. And while at school be the life of the party. My best friend can't do anything unless he gives his parents a 24 hour notice and he is still one of the most social kids in school. We are both strait A students, so being social at school obviously doesnt mean losing focus on your studies, just be more laid back but still try hard in school. Also another thing that helps me out alot is doing sports. Definately do something like track where its more of a social thing even if you suck at running or throwing. Tell your parents that you need to get in shape and workout or your gonna end up fat and die young or some other BS like that lol that will hopefully get you doing stuff after school. Or do something like band or some other extracurricular activity. This way your parents will know that your still in a safe envirnment and wont worry as much. But you have to keep up your grades as well, or your parents will pull the plug on everything.

Hope that helps