I'm 19 and in my third semester of college. and really annoyingly i think i'm in love with one of the girls in my course, my best freind no less.

i've had an attraction to her since i met her. but i had to hide it after i was rejected by her early last year.
Since then i've changed alot, i'm far more outgoing now and though i don't claim to be any sort of cassanova, i have had a couple of very good looking girl freinds.
despite all my changes in the way i look and act she still has no interest in me. i'm 100% sure of this beacause i told her exactly how i feel last week. she was very understanding and didn't freak out but also said that she could see i was good looking,nice,fun, etc but didn't see me in a romantic way at all.
i know she has. there have been times where it was obvoius to me, but sadly i was just too scared to make the move.

i know i should just walk away, try to get over it but i refuse to give up. i need to figure out a way to get her interested in me. i really think i could start something special with this girl.
i need some advice guys

Give it up.

It would take a colossal effort to get her to change her mind about you.

Guys, over and over and over again, keep making the same MISTAKES about women and friendship.

Why?

From a guys' point of view it is pretty simple. Female friend, reasonable body, I wouldn't mind poking that. Surely she must be thinking in a similar manner. I just have to get her interested.


Froma girls' point of view. Friendship and a relationship is sooooooo much more different to a girl than it is for a guy. It is practically worlds apart. This is why most guys don't understand why it is soooo freakin hard to turn a friendship into something more - and as a result when they get rejected they become hostile and confused. And this is why they make the mistake of building too much rapport at the beginning so they FALL into the friend's trap. Because they think it would be easy, almost natural to progress into a romantic relationship. Get this into your head:

'If she sees you as a good friend, she sees you as a little brother. Would she fuck her little brother?'

You have to build an animalistic sense of attraction straight from the onset. Personally, I see this as an extension to the three second rule.

Convey your intentions to her asap. Indeed, this could mean bye bye to a potential friendship if she rejects you. But, do you want a girlfriend or a friend.

From your point of view, you should NOW see her as pivot material or someone to fluff with... that is her ONLY use now.

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Ok, that makes sense.
i just have to get over it now. thanks could you explain the slang in that sentence? like Pivot and fluff. sorry i'm irish so i've never seen those words before

They are not geographically related terms: http://www.fastseduction.com/acronyms.shtml

Has a full list of meanings

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