| If you don't have time to "build" attraction or "demonstrate" high value, how about this... assume attraction and stop giving a fuck about how she perceives your value. That's the way I do it, time restriction or not, and there are a number of reasons for that.
The problem with you guys is that you're focusing too much on getting results with minimal risk of "failure". Fuck that, there's no such thing as failure. Your goal is to find out if she's interested in you or not, so you can either get together or get moving - that's it. Any approach is a success, because you achieved that goal. You either get her number so you can arrange something (I prefer to arrange a day 2 on the spot, but in these circumstances you can't), or you find out she's not interested and you can move along without wasting any of your time. You can't set your goal as getting her number or some crap like that because you have no control over her responses or whether or not she's attracted to you. All you can do is approach, do your thing, and see what happens.
Many argue with this, but it's true. You have no choice whether or not she's attracted to you - it's that simple. You either build attraction through active disinterest and DHV's and rewarding her IOI's with your own etc... or you build attraction by having big brass balls and being up front, honest, and assertive. If a girl is attracted to you, neither approach will work better than the other. They simply work on different levels. But enough about that!
You're also concerned with getting the results you want immediately, so you wanna get away from that. Stay assertive. You need to realise that things are not always as they seem. Sometimes they're attracted to you but won't give you their number there and then because they aren't sure if you're always this confident or if it's just because of the situation. Keep smiling, say it's cool, and go about your business. She will start to think about you, and a matter of days or maybe weeks or so later, she will give you her number.
Anyway, onto how I approach these situations. This is an example of how I do it, so you can see what I'm getting at - it is not what I expect you to do. It's important to use your own words and talk how you talk. Seems obvious, but it really does need pointed out... it's not so much what you say, it's how you say it. You wanna be confident, relaxed, and non-pushy. I always smile as I talk, and look into her eyes. The smile is important because it not only shows you're not too serious, but also demonstrates self-assurance. If I'm approaching a girl in this kind of situation it goes a little something like this:
"So I want us to get to know each other, but the thing with that is... we can't really do that right here, can we?"
She smiles back and says nope.
"Well, gimme your number so we can arrange something then."
From there she either says yes or no. I might get a couple of shit tests depending on how pressed for time we are, most of the time it's a case of "I dunno about that" or "no, sorry". If she isn't sure, I leave it. She'll give it to me some other time when she changes her mind, like I said before. And if she doesn't, who cares?
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