So this HB8 who is 18 and I am 20 have been dating for two years. It was a very good time but towards the last few months of our relationship I had been having a very hard time with my family and I was not treating her the same I had earlier in the relationship, because of this she started going out with her friends more and ignoring me more. Soon after she broke up with me and told me she wanted to see other people to see what else was out there.
Very upset I tried texting her a couple weeks later to see how she had been and she told me she needed her space. Still persistent I even attempted to meet her at work in person a month later, where i confessed how I had been feeling down but that I had changed and was a better man and that we could be happy together. (I did this a nearly AFC fashion, as I thought a serious relationship like this would be dealt with by the heart) Still she told me how she wanted her space and wanted to try and see other people. (Crash and Burn)

My question is: Is there still a chance I can get back together with this woman, and if there is how should i proceed in doing so.

Secondly: If the chances of me getting back with this woman are done, what should i start doing to get over her?

Lastly: Out of curiosity what could I have done better to get her back from the start.

that sounds like a sticky situation

Don't let her see that you're taking it hard. That would make you come off as AFC and ruin ANY chance (that may or may not exist) you have left with her.

I think you should just move on though. You're young and there's a whole sea of women out there waiting to meet you. Young relationships like this rarely last, so I'm sure you'll get over it quickly enough. Just go out, meet new women, and have fun.

There is another guy stuffing her right now dude shes just laying on her back and getting pounded and loving every second of it. Imagine it, dont try to block it out and eventually you will get over it.

Hello Josh, well, in my opinion, people canhardly change that fast. So I would say just move on man. Dont force her to do things she doesent want to. That is the worst thing you can do. Just learn from your own mistakes, and dont make them again. If she sees that you are a new guy, she will come back to you....always. They always come back. Thats my advice.

move on, she'll come back eventually.

Honestly, the best way to get over her and the best way to get her back are the same thing. You need to move on and attempt to date/hang out with other females. Because people freak out when they know they are going to lose something. See you are upset since you are losing her. But she knows she can have you back whenever she wants. So all your begging for her back is just reinforcing her safety to explore and have something to fall back on.

You need to remove her safety net and she will come crawling back. But if she doesn't then the fact you are dating other people will help you to move on it's in own right. I completely understand you don't want to go that route and when im heart broken i dont either, but it's the best way. Make her jealous.

P.S. that is funny you refer your girlfriend as "this HB8" and not your girlfriend.

This happened to me last year, there is an old saying - "To get over a girl just get under another.", OK it's not that old, but it makes sense and is relevent to what I am about to say - this may not necessarily be the right way to think, if you have just ended a serious relationship, or are still hurting from one that has ended sleeping around could have the opposite effect and actually make you feel a lot worse.

The only way for you to get over this girl is to start to enjoy life again, I don't mean to sound like I know you, or am judging how you live your life, as I honestly have no idea about any of that, but if you start to notice things you like, about your environment - whether it be work, home, gym etc, and start liking things about yourself - one day you may wake up and feel you are looking particularly toned, tanned or just down right sexy, these days will make you feel better.

You need to look in the mirror, look past the guy that this girl broke up with and see the real you - the guy that got this girl in the first place, this is the guy that the girls are attracted to, he has not left and with enough patience he will come back, just be happy, this happiness will turn in to confidence, and thus the cycle begins.

Good luck!

- SC

Second Chance is right on the money. There is no way to get over things quickly, that's all bull. So just get your own act together and get the confidence high again. Needy, hurt guys are screwed!

I'd recomend giving it a break. But hey, if you want this chick, I'd say go for it. Get your act together, give it some time and appraoch her again later, when your confidence is up again and say "Hey, let's go out".

Keep in mind that when I say your confidence is high again, that means if you get a "no" it really doesn't mean shit to you. Since you might get a no. If so move on.

Lastly, if she gives you another shot, tell her " I want to talk about things" and she saids "about what", you say "about getting the hell out of here and going out and having some fun!!!". Don't bring up the old stuff.

Good luck