| Hello crucifissio, whats up, I read your post. Let me tell you something...you are NOT being paranoic, you just need a girl that gives you love and affection. Thats a normal thing to feel.
First of all, if you are looking for a serious relationship with a GOOD girl (with values, not interested in money, etc) then you should change your target social circle. Where are you from? In my country there is full of hot girls not interested in money. Of course every day is harder to find them. You probably wont find a good girl in a club, or mabey you will, but its very difficult. Try meeting new people, friends of friends, that helps a lot.
Women test men, men SHOULD test women. If you want a serious relationship with a good girl, test her first. Shallow girls always protect their image, so they dress sexy, showing boobs, etc. And they are always worried about what to wear, or if their nails are broken or if their hair is like shit. You want to avoid those. Im also a sentimental guy and what the hell, I love being like that, you shouldnt be trying to hide that. If you want to meet good girls, you should not hide the way you are. How do you think good girls will be attracted to you if they dont know you? If you start to be who you are, THEY will find you. Good girls like good guys. Thats all.
Testing girls:
What I ussually do before I want a serious relationship with a girl, is to test her. See how she dresses up, provocative or not, that tells you a lot. You dont want a provocative girl. See how she dances. See how she speaks to your friends, if she likes to be the center of attention or not. Invite her to your house and see how she acts. How she sits down, if she has a loud voice, if she uses swear words all the time, etcetera. If you pick her up at her house in your car, see how she reacts when she sees it. I invite her to a cheap ice cream and see how she reacts after that simple date. Usually I wait until SHE calls me after that simple date. If she calls, she is interested in me. If she doesent, then she was interested in my money.
Im also a good looking guy, so what I do, is meet girls when I look like shit, so they like me for what I really am, and not because of my appearence. Of course I dont do that all the time, this is just an example.
I got so good at this testing system that I can smell a shallow girl within miles.
Just ask a girl out and say: damn Im out of money, wanna chat at the park?
Things like that. Im in a relationship now, and I applied all of this first, she passed all the tests. I think I got lucky.
Ask her questions like: What car would you buy?, or what would you do with a million dollars? And see what they answer. Those are simple questions that everyone answers, but the answers say a lot about the person.
Also before asking her to be my girlfriend, I take a month to get to know her well, testing her all the time.
Two very important factors in a persons formation are:
1. Family
2. School
Ask her bout her family. See if she has divorced parents or not, how many brothers and sisters, if she is the youngest, etc That says a lot too!
The school says a lot about a person, every school is different and teachs different values and stuff, you should know your city schools and what they teach to their students. (values). I always ask a girl this first, so I know who Im talking to.
Pick-up gives you tools to avoid these good girls, because what a PUA is looking for is to get laid a soon as possible (most PUAs). And of course a shallow girl interested in money is what a PUA would label "the perfect set" (neg+neg+neg). And what you are looking for is the opposite. I understand you man, Ive been through that feeling too. So, try to do all these, and you will find a good girl man.
Well I hope that helps you, see you later man.
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