later.

This is a continuation from "slept with hb9 now she won't answer my calls"

So this girl I've known now for 2 months, started seeing for the past 3 weeks, sleeps over 6 out of 7 nights a week, and we spend 16 hours a day together most of the time.

She gets mad when we're sleeping if I go sleep on the couch, she's a sound sleeper but if she wakes up before me, she tells me to come back to bed with her.

we go shopping together, out to eat, watch movies, go cart racing, biking, all sorts of fun stuff. It feels like she's my gf. She's very pda every where we go she wants a kiss and hug, which I love getting all this attention from such a gorgeous girl.

It's just this small thing, like this morning she slept over, woke up I had breakfast and she was getting ready for work. She said she would call me when she got off work, today was my day off so I was excited to do something. She didn't call til 10, when she got off at 2. She doesn't have a cell phone, but has a landline at home. So needless to say its a little concerning.

Saturday night we were suppose to go out to dinner, I had work til 6 and she was going to call me at 6:30. Well it turns out she decided to get a tattoo at 3pm and wasn't done til 9, she went home and then called me at 12 after she woke up, she took vicoden or something..

I mean this is just 2 small things, and everything else is perfect, I trust her, we have a blast together, I love spending time with her, and she really likes me. I'm a little more stand offishs, and after she flaked on dinner, we hung out on sunday, and she tried so hard to make me happy, and she had success, no matter how hard I tried to be mad at her, after an hour of hanging out with her she had me laughing and smiling like she always does.

I try to give people the benifit of the doubt and look at the big picture, and she just got out of a 2 year relationship, I can't expect her to spend every second with me. I'm just wondering if there is a way to ask her to be a little more considerate. I ended up making plans after she left this morning, but a call or something would have still been nice.

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Ready to get slapped in the face?

What in the fucking gay is this? You've known her for 2 months and you already spend 16 hours a day with her. Fuck this shit, create your space. She automatically thinks you're her bitch and are willing to give up everything to be with her. Why? Because you handed over your fucking soul to her. Good luck getting any form of respect back from her.

Refer to earlier response. You are her bitch, she owns you.


Girls that display PDA are usually insecure in themselves or there partner. That's why they display PDA, kind of like dogs pissing on there territory. Refer to earlier comment-She OWNS you.

Like I said again, she fucking OWNS you. It isn't a little concerning, it's a big deal. She has lost all respect for you. I don't know what the fuck you did, but to me it seems like once you got her, you stopped displaying the qualities that attracted her in the first place. She owns you hardcore, and honestly, not much you can do to get the respect back.

Why the fuck do you want to spend every second with her anyway? Like I said the past 5 times, she lost respect for you, you are her tool/bitch, and she does not fucking appreciate you. Sorry to break it to you.

If it were me, I would start bringing other girls over and piss her off so she gets the fuck out of my life.

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someone said in the eariler that she is not emotionally ready for a relationship, and she is going to call when she wants to, and come over when she wants to.

they said for me to just be nice and be there for her.

that's what im trying to do.

Normally I wouldnt let this happen more than once, but all my friends are telling me that she really likes me, and she ask them all about me.

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K, it's your shot and call. Just remember no girl is the exception.

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Beschatten left out one tiny little thing. You actually know the amount of hours late her call was?! What the fuck is that? Who even does that? Holy fucking shit, get yourself together. You're treating her like she's the only girl in your life, like she's special, and as if you value her time more than your own. You're being needy, you don't have any power in the relationship and she's walking all over you because she knows she's too hot for you to let go of. Fucking weak.

Hey dude.

First of all, I think you're dating one of my ex-girlfriends. I swear to christ this girl would make dinner plans and show up 3 hours late. Who the hell does that????

I do agree with the above posts that it seems she takes you for granted. Also when I read that you're spending 16 hours a day with her I imagined myself getting married and it really did make me cringe. A part of me just died...

Some girls are just flakes. They take responsibility for nothing in their lives. They're hot because it's genetic, not because they work for it. In my experience most of these kinds of people end up as fat alcoholics by age 30. That's just thier nature.

Assuming your girl is not one of these people, you just need to communicate with her a little better. Don't make it seem like a big deal, but tell her:

"Hey, I didn't appreciate it when you said you were coming over for dinner and then didn't come. I expect you to call me within an hour if the plans are going to change. Will you do that in the future?"

Obviously she will say yes to this. And whatever excuse she makes is unacceptable. Make sure she realizes that if she's gonna be with you she has to meet your expectations, and that she can't keep flaking like she has been. Don't forget, you are the prize.

If she doesn't meet them and flakes on you in the future then move on. Keeping a flake around is a great way to be let down - especially if you're a type A kind of person (like me) who expects people to be punctual.


Good luck

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

thanks, i realize a relationship is going to take work, and communication.

I was sick this past week and she still spent every day with me, and she just ended up getting sick.

I also was joking around with the idea of becoming a drug dealer, she said "I can't be with someone who does that"

I told her "too bad"

I kept pushing the subject (stupid of me) but she didn't know if I was serious or not. I think I should straighten that out with her.

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What is this in reference to??

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

Ready for an opposite, anti-Beschatten-slap in the face?
what the hell...do you really care that much if she misses a few calls because she spontaneously got a tattoo?

So the girl is disorganized...if you can't except that tiny flaw, then good luck finding someone else with whom "everything else is perfect".

Honestly, it sounds like she is the man and you are the woman here...

okay well we're done, I really really tried to make it work, and sat down and talked to her.

Friday night I asked her if she wanted to go out to dinner, she came over, knocked on the door. She didn't look to excited at all to see me. I said lets not go, we'll just go see a movie.

She did want to go so we ended up going out to eat, and her god damn cell phone is sitting on the table. She was excited because she just got it, but for fucks sake its a nice sit down restaurant, and her friend calls her in the middle of dinner and she answers it. I was furious, I told her I was going to pay the bill and just leave her there. And then I told her flaky attitude was not appreciated.

She said she would work on it. I told her I didn't care if she wanted to spend time with her friends, just let me know i wont be mad or sad or disappointed.

Then tonight I found out that blink 182 was getting back together so I text her cause she was at work. I was pretty happy, she said she was just going to go home and go sleep cause she had work early.

20 minutes later her friend calls me and tells me that they're coming over, i could not beleive that shit. And then she ignores me when she's here.

I sent her a text after she left. "we're done"

then i puked, now im listening to hinder. And this whole time I've been seeing another girl.

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haha i loved that ending. just random and funny. forget about her man. go for her friend =P

LOL... i mean really... LOL

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

i dunno whats wrong with me, I didn't want things to end. Im just too nitpicky, and I just need to look at the big picture.

I thought I lost her number, but i found it last night, so I called her we talked for a few minutes, and I was losing reception so I ended the call.

She called me at 2am after a few drinks and asked what I was doing.

So I went to the store last night after the first time I talked to her, got her some sunflowers, her favorite flower, put them in an old pasta sauce jar, found a ribbon on the floor from another girl Im seeing, I wrapped the ribbon around the jar, cut up a piece of paper in the shape of a heart and wrote a little note
To: [emotionally broke]
because i still care
will you still be my valentine?

I didn't sign my name or anything but i left it on her doorstep.

I was thinking she would call or text me this morning saying thanks, or omg you're so sweet, or whatever.

Nothing. I got sent home from work because Im sick, so i sent her a text, "happy valentines day, i got sent home early from work so i guess call or text me when you get off work"

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from your language it sounds like you're panicking and are unsure of yourself. Do you have problems with anxiety? I'm not asking this to make fun of you, just to help you evaluate the real problem underlying your situation.

Right now your actions are incongruent with the image you're trying to create. How can you be alpha when you bombard her with gifts and then send her a message to call you because you got sent home early? You are being needy. Think about it. Is that something Tom Cruise would do?

I know of some techniques for building self confidence. If you are interested i can post them up for you or send them in a PM

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