Ok so one of the hottest girls in my dept. shows up in the cafe today. She's engaged and i am usually not a homewrecker (NOT TRUE), but i suspect she's not the innocent type.

I was sitting at a table working on some stuff. When she gets to the front of the line, i jump up i walk up to her and say, (staring right into her eyes) "if i buy your coffee, can i cut in?" She says yes. Now i know this is usually against the rules, but it saved me like 10 min in line.

Anyway it seemed to work because after we order she says you should call me tomorrow and i'll buy yours. we exchange numers. I send her a quick text congratulating her on her new job (she told me about while in line) and how that must make her FEEL great! She responds she feels great! Things seem good.

So i need advice about how to be discreet but at the same time be aggressive. Her fiance also works in our dept. and like i said i don't want to break them up i just want to get my piece of the pie. then i'm out.

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"50 below, knee deep in the snow" - Don Magic Juan

I don't agree with your reasoning, dude... You are going to break-up a soon to be marriage because you want a piece of the pie and then you are out? Kind of a big time dick move... Just let them be happy, especially if he treats her well and you just want a one nighter... Don't be that guy that gives the rest of us a bad name.

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Don't be that guy. If you seriously just want a piece of that pie then try to get a threesome with them. Most guys feel freaked out about it, but just cause your f!ckin a chick next to another guy it doesn't mean you gotta touch them. You want a piece of the pie, work both of them. Become friends with the guy and work the girl. Maybe even work the "You two may want to have an open marraige later, you might want to start out with it established." Or something like that IF they are okay with it. And hell, I know a couple of married men that have gotten tired of their wives and want to branch out but can't until their women find a side "treat".

What I am saying is... It is fine to pry at the situation to find out what is actually going on and see what you can get where, but if it is between you getting a "piece" and them living a long and happy life together... dont be that guy.

The way i see it if they are engaged and not married then its almost like they are just "going out". I feel as thought you are doing her a services by gaming her becuase if you do and she gets hooked then she isen't ready to get married anyways. After she is married then personally I'm off that, becuase its to risky and i would rather not break up a marriage. being engaged is just a fancy work for seriously dating. i say go for it and maybe use a few seduction tactics if you really wanna push her button. on the other hand how hot is this girl really? And maybe you could just sarge some other HB's.

just my 2 cents

Nah, engaged is not "going out". Engaged means "I am about to get married". That is not something to sarge unless the guy is an abusive loser who treats her like crap. If they are happy, don't even tempt her. Let them be happy while they can. It is selfish just to want a piece of their pie when there is so many other girls out there. Why ruin what they have?

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It takes two to tango.

If she's showing interest, by all means go for it imo. It's not like he has candy in a van. It's her own free will, and she's obviously either not happy, or in the need of some good dicking.

I've had plenty of girls who didn't confess that they were involved. You know the ones who are looking and the others who act as if you don't exist because they're already happy.

Another thing, you said this guy was in your deptartment. Is he your friend?

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No, i hardly know him at all. Would never break a homie law under any circumstances.

I am going to do the coffee thing today. If shes makes it obvious she wants me, i will have to close. If she's that aggressive, she doesn't need to be married anyway. my concern isn't their relationship. I just don't want anyone to find out.

I'll let you guys no how it goes in the field report

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"50 below, knee deep in the snow" - Don Magic Juan

jinla just because a girl is nice to you doesnt mean they want you.
I'm going to tell you now you have no chance with this girl.
Your dates going to go like this:
You're going to go drink coffee and go your separate ways(The End)
and don't get on this site later lying about how you did this and that with her either when you know you really didn't

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Odd, i didn't realize there were haters on this site. I thought this was site where everyone was made to feel welcome. and people exchange helpful ideas. I have seen nothing but support here most of the time. Why did this strike such a nerve?

Think about it, how often are you nice to a girl who you don't want to hook up with (or one of her friends). Why should she be any different?

Its all good though, thanks to those who weren't haters. Here's how it went...and there's no reason to lie....this is an pretty anonymous site. We had the cofee date. I negged her a bit. she went kino on me so i reciprocated. she dropped the "my fiance is out of town." Were doing drinks tommorrow.

I'll keep u updated since i know u care so much about what happens to me. southern bell

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"50 below, knee deep in the snow" - Don Magic Juan

Well I hope you feel good about yourself it's a pretty cowardly move trying to move in on some guy you work with fiance. As a matter of fact you all work together You the girl and the guy. No good
Especially when there are plently of other single women out there

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Messing with a girl you work with is one thing, but having her fiancee work at the same place? WTF. Gaming this girl is a disaster waiting to happen - not only could you have an uncomfortable work relationship with the girl if things go sour, but you could also have an uncomfortable work environment due to the irate fiancee.

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I guess i didn't give all the details. not as risky as it seems. she is leaving the company very soon. we work at a large company. i have been here over year and only seen fiance once.

Now you guys have thrown me off. I am not having fun anymore. maybe i'll just cancel or something.

SouthernCross, change your name to captain save-a-ho

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"50 below, knee deep in the snow" - Don Magic Juan

You just called yourself a Ho. and you're right I did you save u I'm always there to help a Ho in need

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clever...I am not sure I take being a ho as a bad thing tho. I'm really starting to suspect ur a girl southern, cause only a girl would think that.

had to edit this post: this just in. just got asked to drinks now...i should tell her that southern just saved here marriage.

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"50 below, knee deep in the snow" - Don Magic Juan