OK now i will tell you my story. I came to Ireland when i was 10 y.o. I went to an all boy school and didn't speak to much girls. I only went back to my country for Winter and Summer holidays. About every second year that i would go back i would get a girlfriend that i was with for about 2 weeks, then went back to Ireland. I got these girls with the help of my friends and we always hung out together.

(1) of my current problems is that i cant speak to girls alone anymore because i am so used to hanging in groups. Also i lost touch with my friends in my country so when i go back it is really weird and it makes it harder for me to speak with girls there.

my (2) problem is that i only approached less than 5 girls that i didn't know in my life so i guess i have approach anxiety. Right now i am not scared to go up to girls but i have nothing to say and i wouldn't know how to say it. I've read some OPENERS but i have no idea where i would go straight after them, i always get lost for words.

my (3) problem is that i am 18 and still a virgin so i don't even know how it feels like to be with women. This is due to my lack of women around me since i only went to my country for holidays and lately don't even go. I am finally fed up of waiting for that special girl and i need to take action NOW.

(4) is that i don't know how to attract a woman to me and how to create sexual tension. All my girlfriends i guess liked me because of my looks because i always talked to them like (interview style) you know for eg.
"where did you go today ?", "what did you do ?". And i always talk like that to new people that i meet especially girls. "Where do you work ?", "where do you go to school ?" questions like that.

My (5) problem is that i want to have lots of women in my life and have a sex life but i don't have the WILL to go out. I bought a book "Rules of the game" by Neil Strauss and was all excited about going out and doing the challenge.. but after trying to talk to 5 strangers (first day of the challenge) i couldn't even do that so now I'm stuck and don't know what to do.


I would greatly appreciate it if you would help me how with at least just getting started on Day Game. I am fed up of wasting time and my young years away..

Peace

The best suggestion I could give you is to be in more social situations if you want to be more social.

Join a club or anything where there's other people and meet people there and find other common interests.

O and don't just look to make girl friends at these make guy friends to cause more than likely they know a girl or two.

Hope that helps some.

Anyone else? More tips?

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Getting the Hang of things

Be persistant.

If your Day 1 five approaches went badly, forget about them and move on to Day 2. It is really important to detach yourself from the outcomes. This means that you do not care and are not affected by whether or not an approach goes well. Just be yourself. approach, say 'hi', introduce yourself, and be yourself. It doesn't matter what happens!!

If you say hey to a cute girl, introduce yourself, and she doesn't respond well to you who cares!!!! Move on to the next one and start over.

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