| Opposing – the art of creating counterbalance
Some time ago, I started to study the art of sending mixed signals. It is known as one of the most powerfull techniques in the community. There are lots of diffrent names for this fenomenon such as, push pull, emotional rollercoasters, IoI IoD calibration and so on.
The basic idea is that you first send one signal, then the opposite continously to spike the emotional state, create a certain feeling of discontent and to keep them chasing you.
It is extremely powerfull...
Opposing is another way of sending mixed signals. It is very diffrent from the other techniques, but it has the same, if not an even more powerfull effect. It is basicly the art of creating counterbalance. Sending mixed signals at the same time.
The big secret behind it is : Reversed AFC Approach
This is something that I stumbled across, and it amazed me how women would chase me down and try to seduce me in order to prove that what I verbally said was wrong.
Firstly, the AFC Approach:
1: Whatever they are doing, they will always think that someone will expose them as a fraud. They still see themselves as unsexual, unworthy, geeky, nerdy, weak, beta etc.
2: If challenged, they will try to prove themselves as cool, sexy, skilled, alpha etc.
3: They will verbally try to convince everyone that they are high value, they will nonverbally demonstrate their weakness.
I have seen many AFCs that try to prove themselves as cool, or try to impress everyone so that they will approve them as high value. The problem for them is, they never do. They see straight through them and treat them as whining babies.
I am certain that you sometime in your life has met a person like this, and if you´re a girl, I can guarantee that you have met far too many of them.
Girls meet these chodes every single day of their life, and they hate them. Wherever they go, they approach them. They are there when they go shopping, go to lunch, party at clubs, at the gasstations. Everywhere!!
To the girls, these chodes are pathetic, and they feel sorry for them. Remember this key point if you want to master this concept.
Here´s a little something I just found on wikipedia:
“A callback, in terms of comedy, is a joke which refers to one previously told in the set. The second joke is often presented in a different context than the one which was used in the initial joke. Callbacks are usually used at or near the end of a set, as the aim is to create the biggest laugh at the end of a comic set. The main principle behind the callback is to make the audience feel a sense of familiarity with the subject matter, as well as with the comedian. It helps to create audience rapport. When the second joke is told, it induces a feeling similar to that of being told a personal or in-joke.”
AFCs are walking jokes. They give you the perfect opportunity to enjoy imitating them, and let the girl enjoy the fun as well.
Now, the Reversed AFC Approach:
1: When you do this, you give the girl so much bullshit that you can assume that you are a fraud. You percieve yourself as sexy, confident, worthy of everything, too cool for school etc.
2: If challenged you will try to prove yourself as a nerd, low value, unworthy etc.
3: You will verbally try to convince everyone that you are low value and that they are the bomb, Nonverbally you will demonstrate POWER.
You can try as hard as you like, but you will never actually be able to convince or prove to girls that you are low value if you adapt this methodology.
High value and attractive qualities will be backwards rationalized. In this case, attraction is not a choice.
Opposing techniques
Opposing is mostly about subcommunicating attractive qualities. Attractive qualities is not necesserely what triggers attraction, but it can increase it drasticly if done right.
Firstly, find any quality or trait with attractive nature, then find the opposite of that quality. For example: Sexual Worthyness - Sexual Unworthyness
Verbally, you are going to prove to the girl that you are not worthy of getting sexual with her. The key is to enjoy yourself while doing this, and have a lot of fun.
Nonverbally, you are going to demonstrate the worthyness by taking action and moving your body. Hint: When using nonverbal communication try to think in term of sentenses. I will give examples later on.
Remember that you percieve yourself as worthy, yet you are playing unworthy knowing you are a fraud and that she will try to expose you.
Example 1
Quality: sexual worthyness – unworthyness
R(verbal)1: Omg,omg,omg You are like the hottest girl i´ve ever seen!! Too bad I can never have you L
R(nonverbal)1: Oh...yeah! I saw you from the other side of the room, and I can already say: we´re going down tonight..
R(verbal)2: I think you´re too hot for me... even if we would get along I could never see myself taking your hands... leading you in closer... smelling your neck... becouse.. I´m .. uh.. nerdy J .. ya know..
R(nonverbal)2: I can already tell... becouse your melting when I touch you with my hot hand.. as I .. (lead her in).. (get in close).. (smell her neck).. I´m a man, your a woman and we are... going down tonight..
As you can see, I am not very good at writing examples, but I wanted you to understand the dynamics. Verbally I am telling her that I could never bring myself to doing certain things, while at the same time doing those things through my nonverbal communication.
This can sometimes be even easier. You can even say verbally that you absolutely didn´t experience something really outstanding the other day and stress that fact over and over again. All you have to do nonverbally is indicate that you are lying. Think of that as saying “I promise” while crossing your fingers.
Finally, Opposing is a technique that will get her chasing you. It can not lead you all the way to sex. It is meant to increase attraction until she starts to invest like a craaazzy girl.
Like every other technique out there, have fun with it!!!
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