Hey guys,

i havent been here for a long time hows the community? its going to be sort of a long read but i provided some cliff notes at the end. but it'd be better to read the whole story.

anyways, theres this girl that i've been working with for about the last 6 months. she is easily a high hb8. cool personality, smart, fun, but dangerous. why dangerous? well before when she first started, i didnt give her the attention that everyone else did, but now she seems to have her sights on me for whatever intentions i dont know. she still talks to everyone else but she definitely gives me special attention. i've been out of the pua lifestyle for a little while now because of too much work and school. ive actually just tried to build better relations with my family and friends. in a way using my skills on them. as a side note, i feel like ive become such a better person by trying to live a pua lifestyle; not as a way of meeting girls but overall improving my life. back to the point.

at first when she started working she would always talk about her bf and how much she loved him, blah blah. thats great. i knew this girl was trouble to begin with but as i got to know her, she is genuinely a cool girl so i took down my shield as she seemed harmless. as the months went by she started having problems with her bf, and i noticed that when she would be having problems she would be overly flirty and touchy with me. being a level above her at work i tried to maintain professionalism and not engage with her touching but just chose to ignore it. she comes to me all the time saying that she doesnt know why shes still with her bf because he doesnt treat her like he used to and shes tired of it. i try not to be a captain save-a-ho and i try to stay clear of the whole, "girl, you should break up with him then and get with me" types of conversations so i just end it with, just do what makes you happy.

one time we went drinking after work she whispers to me that she wants to show me naked pictures that her bf took of her. also the other day at work she said that she really wanted to hang out since we havent been talking at work too much lately, i just told her, "hmm i gotta study" whats this girls deal? she tells me shes never cheated on her bfs because shes always the one thats been cheated on, so she would never put someone through that. she used to ask me jokingly if we could hook up and i played along saying "not as long as youre still with your bf, but im not always gonna be available for you." like i said i dont like PU on girls with BFs but shes making it real hard to not to. i think im starting to get oneitis over this girl because im thinking about her a little too much. its not fair that shes able to get away with all this. any advice to level the playing field with her?

cliff notes. hb8 at work with boyfriend, at least daily will say something or do something that indicates she wants to be more than just friends or coworkers. has trouble with BF but cant leave him for some reason. I just want to get the ball back in my court because right now, she has all the power.

This happened to me and it hurt at the end of it. I would suggest you walk away now. It is not worth it chances are she won't leave her BF.

after my experience I would highly recommend not doing anything with work chics, even if you are/were sure she would be on it. Shit gets to awkward afterwards, not just for you to but your friends if they know each other.

im just curious but why the hell does it seem like half the guys posting questions it generally has to do with a girl and how to get her away from her boyfriend?....

nothing on you man..but for god sakes go and find someone who is single

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Professionalism = Bullshit! Especially if she likes you!! what’s that a excuse for being stiff?

She has strong feelings and she wants to be with you, and your a giant disappointment! Get her on a date, stimulate her emotions, spin her around look in her eyes... and kiss her! boom! Any excuse to get her with you is fine!

Stop taking so long!

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Get her out of your head by seeing some other girls!!!

And maybe next time she makes a direct approach at you out of work, like the naked picture thing, tell her that 'you don't want to be the guy that breaks her up with her bf, and that she needs to make her own decisions.'

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Yeah I think you should get away from her now.
I tried one girl from work, then the dates didn't go well. We became awkward and couldn't even look at each others. Working time becomes unconfortable.

So yeah, just ignore her when she talks to you, or answer with "uh huh". Lie to her that you got a gf now. And go find another single girls.

yeah, all that sound good to me. i only work thu, fri, and sat. the rest of the week is so busy i usually dont even think about it. now i know just to keep a level head and just to keep my frame solid.

update.

So lately at work, i havent really talked much to the HB. But ive been really straight up with her. I told her she cant be doing the things she does because for one, we're at work and two she has a bf. Even though thats been establish casual flirting still occurs on both ends, but I think that its just my personality and it never gets serious. For example, she came today and i told her, "HB, i have a secret tell you." and it just so happen that every time I tried telling her, we would get interrupted. So near the end of the day I was finally able to tell her and said, "I think today, you look amazing." I just wanted to tell her what I thought of her, but didnt mean for it to lead to something so crazy. After work she said she'll call me cause shes going to a party. I told her, ok i'll just be chilling at home.

Later that night, i get a call from her around 12. She told me the party got broken up and she didnt wanna go home yet. So I told her to come by and chill. She got to my house and was wasted drunk. She was able to talk clearly, but she was just stumbling around. One of my friends was over so she didnt wanna go inside. We stayed outside and we leaned on my friends car. Then she kinda layed on me, giving me a lap dance and tried to kiss on me. So I told her no, this is wrong. Don't get me wrong, if this was just any girl, I would beat that pussy up so hard by now. But one, she has a BF, two I think I'm getting feelings for her and three we're coworkers. All that kept running through my head and I just kept sayin to her what are you doing to me HB. You know this isnt right. She said had to go home soon so I told her no, ill drive your car home and ill get picked up. She thinks shes fine but wasnt at all, so i got in the back seat of her car til she let me drive. That didnt work. She got in the back with me and took off her tights, so now shes in her panties giving me a lap dance. I told her if she wanted to do this at least do it when shes sober. After we sat in the car for a little bit jokin around i told her ima get my friend so we could drop her off. she told me she was ok to drive home (she lives 5 minutes away, but still anything could happen). I let her and told her to call me when she gets home. When she got home she tells me shes gonna sleep in the car for a little bit then go in when shes cool.

now I'm kinda stuck in a dilemma. what happen last night isnt gonna make things awkward. if anything i know now that this girl is persistant. i dont know what the right move would be next. i do like this girl for more than just a one night fuck. i think if that happens it'd be much more awkward at work. i dont know whether or not to give her an ultimatum or push her to break up with her boyfriend. or just drop her altogether.

I think you're thinking a bit too much into it. Remember your main goal is to HAVE FUN, but be ethical. And you are being ethical. Think of this as a win/win situation for the experience you'll gain from this. Nothing replaces the knowledge you gain from actually taking action with what you're doing.