Hey dudes,

I just got into Pensacola Florida a few months ago. I'm 22 and my job offers a lot of free time, so I picked up a copy of 'The Game' that was laying around the apartment. I really like that 1.) the emphasis so far seems to be on self-improvement and 2.) that the community seems to be mostly positive and helpful. My hobbies are longboarding (the skateboard kind), guitar, video games and reading. My goals are to become more confident in social situations and to open up enough options for me to find a girl that's worth sticking with. My pops always told me that dating is a numbers game, and now it feels like I finally have the tools to break it down nerd-style and start really PLAYING the game instead of watching it. I have a bachelor's degree, a sick 8th story apartment on the beach with 2 roommates and a balcony, lots of free-time, a decent amount of cash and a lot of drive.

I'm 5'6 so alot of times I feel like I have that working against me. Recently I've been cultivating a 'Fuck it' attitude, I think what I need is some guidance to start pulling my game together.

Thanks for reading, and any advice or insight is always appreciated.

-Halsey

Welcome to the forum and the community.

It's a numbers game, but when you know the game it takes less numbers.

Take it easy!

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Thanks!

Oh you better believe I'm taking it easy. I've got the next coupla hours booked to teach my roommate how to play guitar. He's read the game too but apparently refuses to play. He makes a good point though, he can't really get over the idea of 'negging' a girl. I can definitely see myself having that problem. I've been told a lot of times that I'm just a nice guy. That's great but doesn't really open up a lot of options. I don't want to be a SAFE guy for girls, I want to be the one they think about. Ah well.

So to start myself off I've been trying to compose my own method. The Mystery Method seems pretty straight-forward. I want to eventually make a cheat sheet for myself, starting with the approach and following through to a number/kiss close.

I really want to come up with all my own stuff, I don't wanna stomp on anyone else's work.

The one thing I really can't wrap my head around is 'peacocking'. My job won't support tattoos or piercings, or really any public displays of weirdness. Any ideas? If the goal is to NEVER do what the other guys do...how do I separate myself from the preppy crowd? Go punk?

Waaaay too much free time over here. Too bad it's Tuesday or I'd go try some stuff out.

-Halsey

Just find a method and stick too it for a bit to get the method down. Negging is not insulting a girl, and you have to get that in your mind. The more you read the more you'll understand this. It's a "false disqualification" is all it is. You are creating a push/pull for her to chase you instead of you chasing her.

The prime Msytery example is, "Nice nails. Are those real? Oh well, they still look good on you." That's not an insult, but it's not a compliment either really . Again, you can use other false disqualifiers like "I"m so not boyfriend material" or others. Disinterested body language helps here as well to substitute instead of negs. It's not that bad. Many guys have a problem getting past that.

Peacocking. sure it gets you attention. Basically dress for the type of girl you are after. Don't go nuts on this really. Just wear clothes that are stylish and fit well. When in doubt have a girlfriend take you shopping.

Make you own method later. Follow the principals of a method, stick to it, get good at it. Then worry about tweaking it. You have to practice the fundamentals first. Just like in any sport.

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Wow, ok I just had another mini-ephphany. So...we're basically taking the sports metaphor all the way. I like it! Fundamentals first. Roger that. Thanks again!

-Halsey