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I think Bonita's post is poorly thought out because my request is for 'ideas and experience on how we can work it to our advantage' as these meets will definitely be happening. Instead she provides unfounded reasons why it wont work to our advantage stating girls will 'wonder why they are all single' etc, which would be quite an assumption. In fact we are not all single.
Later she adds that 'it is suspecious (sic) that 20 guys would go out without one female'. Despite the OP stating that there would be some girls in the group, and after I had already given a few suggestions of times when large groups of guys are out together.
It's called constructive criticism. Just cause you guys don't agree doesn't mean there's any cause for you to make a scene. Trust me, if you stick around on the board this WILL happen again and you just need to learn to try and see the other person's point of view and use it to improve your own understanding. Even if you don't agree with it, getting another person's perspective gives you added information about how other peope perceive things and you can find ways to make that information useful.
Now that you know that women will see large groups of men in that way, you understand WHY there is a need to break into smaller groups and not just that we told you that you should. Now you know what you are trying to avoid and can be on the lookout for it. Now you have something to tell the other guys to keep them from forming big groups and standing around (which WILL happen) because just telling them that they shouldn't won't mean jack shit to them. This is why it is important to develop an understanding of the underlying principles and not just "what you should do".
You both hit each other, so you've even now. If my sister punched me, I'd punch her back and that would be the end of it. Make up an move on. You both learn something hopefully.
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