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I'm just looking for some basic advice after #-closing, but here's the story:
Ok. So my best girl (LJBF) and I go out to meet up with some other friends of ours at a bar. Fair number of people I know, lively conversation, lots of social proof. A friend of LJBF is there and becomes my target. She's an HB7 in my book because she's my type and super cute, but I'm cognizant of LSE because she's a bit out of shape. I have 2 pivots, do a little push-pull, SHE actually initiates the photo routine, etc, etc.
So when we were leaving, LJBF is giving a ride to her HG, and HB7 offers me a ride. After we leave and it's just the 2 of us, I turn AFC. Long story short, I could've spent the night at her place if I played C/F instead of being AFC... I started giving a shit. Don't ever do that.
Anyway, she drops me off. Vibe isn't right for a k-close. I had given her my number earlier in case she got lost on the way back, plus it was raining damn hard. She calls me while I'm still in the car and says we should get together another time. Later she texts basically "I'm home safe. Goodnight." I text back the standard "K. G'night."
So, I don't really want a long term thing with this girl unless it's noncommittal. Near certain I could've f-closed. I'm trying to think of something non-date-like that isn't "hey come over my place!" But the big question is:
In general, can one escalate faster on a day 2 because of comfort and/or rapport or is it almost like starting over after approaching?
If you didn't created comfort at all whatsoever... its alomst as if you guys didn't meet. But in your situation its not bad. I sense that she's really into you. All you have to do now is wash, rinse, repeat. I don't know where your comfort level is... but this is what I've done in the past to know if an HB was into me or not. Text her that you want her to go shopping with you. Just you and her chilling for the day. Make sure the mall you go to has a Bed, Bath, & Beyond. Go in, and ask her to pick out some candles, body soap, shampoo, things of that nature. At this point there's no turning back.
Tell her (don't ask her) in a nonchalant way "So your coming over tonight, and we're taking a bath. I'm cooking...uh... what do you want to eat?"
It's important that you follow this up with the What do you want to eat. The bath is already implied, so if she makes suggestions on what she wants to eat, then you know that she's down. This is called Implied Speak.
Women do this ALL the time. When they ask you are you stopping by the fridge anytime soon (when you're perfectly sitting on the couch), you ask why and they say oh, that they were just a little thristy. That's implication. She's implying that she want you to get her something to drink. This is the same thing.
There's 3 Steps to this esculation.
1) If she enters the Bed, Bath, & Beyond with you (mostly only couple shop here).
2) When you suggest different candles for your bedroom, and bathroom, and she gives you advice (candles, and incense usually imply sexual connotations).
3) If she tells you what she wants you to cook that night (also implying she knows its on, as far as the bath).
Like I said. Wash, Rinse, and Repeat.
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