Dear Drezdin,

Sorry I didnt get back to you in time, how did it go in the end?

For future reference meaningful gifts for people in general have to have meaning (who would have thought eh)

My girlfriend bought me a few things this Christmas but the one that stood out the most wasn't the most extravagant fancy one, it was this little egg holder that has these three soldiers on them, basically the soldiers are standing in a circle and the egg goes in between all of them, it's this silly little plastic thing. But it stood out because we've been having egg and soldiers almost every day for a week before Christmas as it's one of our favourite foods right now.

The present had meaning and I loved it all good presents do.

Hope this helps,
AFC Adam,

Dear file,

Mate I know exactly what you mean, I used to be like that too and there is only one solution that I know of, it's the only one thing that's worked for me but no one ever likes it. The answer is “do it”

I used to be the biggest procrastinator, I didn't do anything, my life was pretty much Dungeons and Dragons and video games.

Then something happened to me, where I lost everything and I realised that all I had to rely on was me. Then from that day on everything I had to do, I did.

Now whenever something needs to be done people look to me because they know I'll do it. People think they need to think things over or they need to give it time, it's simply not true. Most people think that was in an attempt to put off what ever they need to do.

Mate try this, pick 5 things that need doing in your life, like right now. Then spend the next week doing those five things. Then increase upon it.

Truth is when your too busy doing, you wont have time to think about doing and that's where most people fail.

Good luck bro,
AFC Adam,

Dear Mowgli,

Thanks buddy! Good question

You're right, functional openers are about needing information.

Adding value from a functional opener comes after they have answered the question, in effect the functional opener is the easiest to transition from as you go straight into rewarding them for their investment.

“Excuse me, do you know where the nearest starbucks is?”

“Thank you very much, I could tell you were friendly. Most people don't have time for others in their busy lives, thank you for helping”

Here you reward them for helping you by acknowledging them helping you and making them feel good about it and you've now moved away from starbucks and talking about her as a person (transitioning)

With a bit more finding out about her and adding value, you'll find that you're in a full on interaction.

Hope this helps,
AFC Adam,

Dear mikeyb10supra,

Functional openers are the best sort of openers to start off with while getting used to social proofing a venue.

I would say initially use something like “Excuse me guys, do you know what time this place closes?”

Then reward them for giving you an answer “Thank you, I knew you guys were going to be friendly”

Always do introductions, introduce yourself. Get their names, stay for 30 seconds more and leave them on a high, after you've made them laugh is always the best time.

Generally speaking you'll know when you have enough social proof when you get people commenting on it.

“How do you know all these people?”

“Why does everyone seem to know you?”

“Do you work here?”

“You own the club don't you?” (Never say yes to this one and always downplay the good comments you get off the back of social proof)

Hope this helps buddy,
AFC Adam,

Dear Fin,

Heya man,

Ok first up pretty good evaluation of what's happening. Here's the thing though...why aren't you maintaining the conversation yourself? The girls are giving you IOI's? So follow them up. Or are you letting them walk away.

Most shy girls want the guy to chase them they enjoy being pursued. If they are giving you IOI's and walking off they are in fact “flirting” and want you to chase them.

Hunt them down, make them feel at ease, and let them warm to you. Building comfort is a great way to do this, to lessen the intimidation.

Good luck and enjoy buddy!

The first step to building comfort is to add value.

AFC Adam,

Dear Kentheman,

Seems to me like you've got a good understanding of what you need to do, now all you need is experience, the more you do it the more things will become clearer to you.

Let me know how it goes!
AFC Adam,

Dear Slight,

Look's interesting man, I'll get a better look at it later

Cheers mate!
AFC Adam,

Dear Dieselfuel,

Hey buddy, interesting topic.

I don't think qualification in a relationship ever really ends, when you're in a serious relationship with someone and you have plans and thing's you're both working on together, you'll find that you will both qualify yourselves to each other.

Keeping on the same page and making sure you both know where the other stands is completely different from asking her to tell you three interesting things about herself.

It's not the same kind of qualification as it was in the beginning, before it was to find out what she was like and her past, now it's about what you both want to become and your future together.

Haha, I have no idea right now mate, I've just finished a world tour and just want to go home and stay in a country for more than a weekend!

AFC Adam,

Dear levity,

Thanks buddy, I'm glad you like the thread

A break in rapport is the beginnings of attraction, it's so you don't get stuck in the LJBF zone and it ramps up the kino and fun times.

A congruence test is something (usually negative) a girl will say to you in order to see what you're made of.

If you come across as a charmer she might say “you're a player aren't you?” it's not the response that matters, it's your reaction to it that does.

AFC Adam,

Dear Dang1991,

Thank you very much buddy,

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you too, From Amanda and I

AFC Adam,

Dear Steven,

I don't think anything need's fixing buddy, you sent a funny text and she sent one back, if your referring to her not getting into your balls (in the text of course ) she still laughed at the story!

Yep I think arranging a meet up is the way forward. Go for it!

AFC Adam,

Dear *olie*,

I still call myself an AFC because I'm always learning new things. Anyone who thinks they've learnt everything they possibly can about game or anything else for that matter is either deluded or someone I'd do a one on one with

Sadly I'm no longer doing that project bud but there is another project I'm currently working on that will be similar, bigger and better.

You can just stick your question on here and I'll do my best to answer it.

Hahaha, believe me you don't want this accent, in the states everyone asks me to say things

“say water”
“water”
“omg he said it differently!”

AFC Adam,

Dear I-am-Just-Me,

If you're travelling around from place to place. What you want to do is social proof whatever venue you are at and make new friends. Thats done by opening, adding value and leaving them on a high (while their laughing for instance) the whole interaction should not take longer than a minute or two.

You want to do this with everyone is the club, then exchange numbers and arrange to meet up another night so they can show you the town as your not from around there.

Then arrange to take those friends somewhere else another night, find a venue you want to go take your new friends too, bar or club or anywhere else for that matter.

Call the venue and say your in town for only a couple days and want to bring all your friends to the venue and ask them what they can do for your group if your going to bring those people to their venue.

“So I'm thinking of holding my event here, is there anything you guys can to make your my friends have an even better night?”

Social proof is social proof, whether is an entourage or your doing it completely from scratch in a new place.

For language barriers I suggest learning a couple of phrases like “excuse me” and “can you help me” and try to explain the rest in english, when you cant hear then you rely on what you see. So make sure your smiling and sending good vibes and try to make them laugh, adding value is universal.

Take care,
AFC Adam,

Dear VHDL,

Interesting situation buddy,

What I would suggest is to invite her to a party or social event, that way it's low pressure and you get to see her. But whats even better is that if she brought her boyfriend along it wouldn't be weird as your not stuck on some sort of weird love triangle date

But! What would be even better is, if you were the one hosting the event and everyone looked to you for whats going on, then your the guy with options and she's tagging along!

And one last thing, if she really does have a boyfriend and the two of you aren't going to be lovers, don't just throw her away (like most puas do) add her to your social circle, become good friends then tell her you need her help to find a cool chick and she needs to set you up with one of her friends, you'll find she will do most of the work for you, girls love playing cupid!

Hope this helps bro,
AFC Adam,

Dear Demarest

Comfort, Break Rapport, Qualification, Sexual Escalation.

You run game on a mass scale and stop at sexual escalation. Then number close and invite them to your event (if you don't have one then set one up, a regular event/activity that you do once a month that you can invite people to)

AFC Adam,