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any specific examples on being direct?
I dunno if you want me to go through an actual interaction or what, but the most recent cold approach I did was kinda like this... I have a good memory for conversations, it's handy.
This was down the street from where I live, cute girl with a shopping bag (a rare sight since this is a small town with fuck all shops)
Me: Hey, I gotta ask you something.
Girl: Um, ok?
Me: Well, I was just wondering how you're doing today.
Girl: Haha that's really random, why?
Me: Cos, I wanna see if you're in a good mood or not, but you're smiling so that's usually a good sign.
Girl: Yeah, usually...
Me: So what's in the bag? Or do I not wanna know?
Girl: Haha nooo it's ***** (edited for security purposes lolz)
Me: Well, that's interesting... you normally shop here? Cos you know you can get this thing called a bus into belfast and they have biiiiig shops, you coulda got a much nicer one.
Girl: Haha shut up! I know but it's handy cos I live like, right down there.
Me: Uh huh... well listen, I could talk to you all day about your fabulous stuff you bought and why you're shite at travelling, I really could, but seriously... I'd really rather we just got together some time instead. Cos that'd be fun.
Girl: Haha oh my god... that's terrible, I don't even know who you are!
Me: And?
Girl: I dunno, you could be crazy or something!
Me: So why are you still talking to me then?
Girl: I dunno, cos I just am.
Me: Yeah, ok. I'm free later on and on tuesday, pick one.
Girl: Pick one?
Me: Pick one.
Girl: Haha why?
Me: Cos if you don't pick one we gotta do both.
Girl: What's wrong with that?
Me: Good point. I'll see you at 7 then?
Girl: Haha yeah right! Tuesday's actually better cos I... (security purposes again lulz)
Me: Yeah alright. So whatcha wanna do?
Girl: I dunno, what do you wanna do?
Me: You should never ask a man that.
Girl: Oh god, why?
Me: Heh. I'll give you a ring later on and we can talk all about it, how's that?
Girl: No tell me!
Me: Number please. (handing her the phone at this point)
Girl: Haha fine but you better tell me!
Me: I sure will... oh, and I'm Mike, by the way.
Got her name, told her I'd call later, got moving. This took a few minutes, I wouldn't say any more than 5. So I called her later that night, talked about what I had for dinner and did the small talk thing. Then she asked what we were gonna do, and after some discussion she told me the thing she had to do that night suddenly didn't need done anymore... I treated that as an invitation to come over and I actually did end up over there keeping her company. Awesome. I could give you a ton of examples like this, but hopefully that gives you a decent idea of how things go without me having to. And I could tell you about that phone conversation, but you really should be able to figure that out.
