Hi,

I picked up a girl a few days ago (thanks to you!), and now she is getting physical with me (and it's obvious she wants sex).

But i have a problem, I'm a VIRGIN.

I don't wanna tell her, cause i lied to her about that (as I do to everybody).
And most important, i don't want her to NOTICE (maybe i'll tel her later)!!

But there is something that i'm really afraid of ... i'm afraid of "missing the target"!!

If you're in complete darkness, how can you know exactly where to put the penis (so you don't miss the vagina)?

I'd also like to know (more) things to do on foreplay... i think i would be more confident if i had a "plan" (note that i don't want to do oral sex this night).
Knowing a few things to do (and how long shoud i take at it) would help me a lot!



I know we are not suposed to have a "plan", that every woman is different, but i'm not looking to give her a good night of sex, i just want to avoid "disater" and avoid nervousness.


Thank you
Filipe

When the time comes, your male extinct will kick in.

You can also tell her something like "Hey it turns me on when you grab my cock and thrust it in."

As far as foreplay goes tease her a lot before actually giving in. If and when you go down on her make sure to slowly move from her thighs and inward, don't just take it all in one.. slowly tease her.

You should really do fine.. and I mean if I were you I would just tell her you're a virgin when you're both naked. It will make it less awkward and what is she going to do? Put her clothes back on? lol...

I would suggest reading Extramask's field report on losing his virginity, quite funny but true.

Edit: Play with her a lot, when you actually enter she'll feel it more because she'll be much more receptive...

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for foreplay. dry hump her for a while that will turn her on. google it if u dont know what i am talking about.

honestly forplay with help a lot if ur having trouble findin the hole, if she is nice and wet already lucky you...

second, you might want to think about watching some porn.. just for ideas not like the complex stuff, find a video online where it looks just like normal sex and study....



third and most important, even though your a virgin, try not to think about it and let it roll..


by thinking about it too much you will become nervous and that might lead to disater

Actually girls tend to get turned off by this in my experience.

I'd suggest you just keep the lights on. Most people tend to because they enjoy seeing their partners. Turning out the lights is something people do when they're uncomfortable with their bodies or their sexuality.

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As far as missing the spot: aim low.

The vag will be slightly lower than expected.

it you dont want to have the lights on all the way.. a better mood for sex is a dimmer light so if yu have like a lamp or something small put that on instead of the main room light

as said above first time, its always slightly lower than you'd imagine...

but basically when the times comes, you'll know what to do

Why and why?

Lying takes way too much effort for it to be worth anything.

hahaha just watch ALOT of porn before she comes over and ull get it after that

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I never thought of this before, but make sure to do some cunnilingus or lube up a decent amount... Then when you go to stick your dick in, it will just kinda slip in. haha

It is that easy...


As for the virginity part. It's only a big deal if you make it one. She won't even know if you don't say anything...

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I agree,

Fake it till you make it haha,

Honestly if you just keep your cool and play it confidently she will never know.... My only advice is ditch the plan, go with your instincts, too many people have hang ups with sex which is strange as its one of the most natural things in the world, dont think about it too much or that will effect your performance.

If you are still having doubts, by all means watch some tutorial videos online and watch out for some of the techniques, as for oral, on your first time with her, i would def go for it, tease her = please her, make her want more, no oral may equal no more sexytime (as borat would say) with this chick in the future, if you dont want to perform oral, then go to down with some foreplay, make her work for it and finally Good Luck, keeps us updated.

Peace

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my advise is to when the time comes just tell her to put it in for you. If you kinda say it in an enthusiastic like hot in the sexual momment type of way she will just obey and wont think a thing but the biggest problem for me when when I was a virgin was bein to quick so try to think about something not sexy if u get to close to quick. be calm and relaxed. as far as foreplay Kissing is the biggest thing so make out but u gotta put some like hot passion into it then move to kissing erogenous zones like the neck and nibbling ears and of course fondling breasts. Once u are kissing her and you have a hand full of breast the only next move is the snatch. if you have a nice flow in your escalation and you are confident about it u wont appear like you are a virgin.

dont be afraid to turkeyslap if you feel the need. it is a cardinal rule for me.. if im gonna pull a one nighter, there will be a trademark turkeyslap delivered.

Trust me, you'll know what's the hole.
It's the wet one on the bottom.

If you want to make it easy for yourself, tease her.
Play around with her body, kissing her neck, between her breasts, her belly, her thighs, her calves, then move up, placing kisses on the insides of her thighs, gradually upwards, but don't move in to her pussy, when you're between her legs, kissing upwards along the inside of her thigh you'll notice the small dimple between her pussy and her thigh, kiss that one, or let your tongue slide across it.
Then move up, narrowly avoiding her cunt, kiss her breasts and nipples, her neck again, her mouth, bite her lips gently.
If she's already turned on enough to be naked with you, and you do this sort of thing, she will usually end up pretty soaked, which is big bonus for you.

Oh, and when you've teased her a while; use your finger(s) inside her.
(This will give her pleasure and you'll be sure which hole it is.)
If you're wondering how to use the finger, look up techniques on the net, look for G-spot stimulation, or read the stuff by David Shade, and try the Deep spot,

Just stroke the inside of her flesh in the way which will be most natural to you, ( palm up, and stroke her with a curled finger in a "come-here" movement. if you're looking for the G-spot: try to feel the area which is rifled, it's a patch that's rougher than the rest... you'll notice.
If you've been through a bit of foreplay first it'll be easier to find... it's virtually impossible if the woman isn't turned on.)

and:
Make sure you know how to put on a condom beforehand, so that when she's ready to fuck, you won't have to fumble for five fucking minutes.
Practice on your own, seriously.

Two reasons to take your time and give her foreplay; She'll come much quicker, since foreplay helps build tension (Orgasm is when the tension that is build up through sex is released)
and:
She'll be wet, so you'll glide much easier into her, and it reduces soreness if the sex is long or intense.

If you ever fuck a woman dry, you'll know what I'm talking about,
Your cock will be red and the skin will be sore, and so will the inside of her pussy be.