So today I met up with a friend of mine that I haven't seen for months (seperate colleges). As we were talking we got on the subject of relationships and I talked about two things with her that I believe would have some benefit for AFC's to talk with their girl-friends about.

1) What women want in men and how they become attracted to them. This girl told me that women are attracted to "nice guys" and I stopped her dead and called her a liar. She persisted to tell me about her and her boyfriend of four years and how they met. She genuinely believed that it was his nice guy approach that got her interested until I got her to dig deeper. As soon as she did, she found that really what got her was the fact that one day he played the uninterested routine and then kissed her out of the blue when they were alone. So thus, she finally agreed that it was his bold display that got her but it is his nice side that kept her. So be persistent and you'll see that you can pull information out of your friends that they didn't even know they had. It may be what you already know, but it will then reinforce it in your mind.

2) So I then asked her how she saw me when we first met and trust me fellas I've done this with a few friends and you can find a wealth of information to help your game in this. She said that her and another mutual friend of ours both initially felt like they would absolutely hate me. They said that they thought I over-dressed and it gave me the appearnace of being this cocky guy. Now I've heard this same thing from other friends too and these are all friends that I have great relationships with, that they love being around me now. But she then said that it was after she got to know me that she realised that I was a great guy and that's why she loves hanging out with me.

Now how I interpret what she said is, the alpha male appearance made her somewhat cautious but interested, and then the personality is what kept her. Mind you I was not trying to game any of these girls when I met them so you may try less nice guy stuff until you close. But what talking to these girls does, is let you see yourself from a different perspective. Let's you know if you have something you can use to your advantage or something you should avoid.

Personally fellas, even if you have no game, try bringing these topics up to your girl-friends and see what they have to say. You don't have to tell them why you're asking. But I think that asking the people that know you best questions like these could have tremendous impacts on the game of those guys just starting out.

Hope it helps,
~GQute