my main question is kind of how much does it take for you to mess up your chances with a woman entirely? I mean like if you fail to approach within 3 secs is the chance gone forever? Or if you one time show yourself a little insecure or needy just once, or if she catches you stare at her and you dont keep eye contact or something.

For example my own problem: i started in a new class about 4 months ago, and there was a really fine girl there that i really liked, and instantly i started getting tons of ioi's, i went to parties where she was, we spoke alot and got along pretty well. Hell after 2 months in the same class as her she broke up with her b/f, i have no idea if it was a coincidence but i really dont think so. Now things between me and her have kind of just faded away, though i still get some curious looks from her from across the room and stuff. Well because i go to the same class as her at school i see her everyday and that is not really a good thing for me, i dont allways look my best every morning and i might not be in the mood and i cant really manage to game her as i do some days. When she sees me having a bad day like that, is that like really bad? And i wonder, do you think i still have a chance with this girl? And what should i do?

It depends on the girl and her IL. If her IL is low, one slip up can kill what little attraction she has for you. But if her IL is through the roof, you can get away with allot more. But it sounds like you haven't done much to get her interested to begin with, you need to step it up and stop making excuses.

Your game won't always be on point (as they say), but if her IL is high, it doesn't have to be.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

That's a tough question.
My coach plays a game called Blow-Out to try and find this threshold out. And he's discovered it's higher than you'd think.
Especially once you've locked-in it's nearly impossible for him to get a set to blow him out.

However that's partly because he's a massive charisma machine.

Each girl is different and each girl has a threshold to which they will accept 'mistakes'.

Your best idea is to be as good as you can and hope for the best.

The three-second rule is mainly made to reduce AA. Not every girl is going to start counting when she spots you looking at her.

You'll find some people will say it HAS to be one way or another but I disagree with that. Every girl is different so every girl's threshold is different.

So with this girl, I'd advise you go for it. But I think your worry over the 'point of no return' is part of what's causing your nervousness and your inability to game her some days.

So relax and have fun with her.

Next class you have with her, sit down next to her and smile. Then say "What happened to you? It's like you disappeared." Then keep going.

Cinnamon

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I am pretty new to this, might i ask what IL means/is?

Thanks alot for the replies

IL would be interest level