ummm for the cumming issue idk, I can't really imagine how one could cum involuntarily. I mean if I lose focus I don't get one.
Well anyway I can have multiple orgasms, why don't i tell you how to do that and if that works for u it won't matter if they come really fast, because there is more than one. And the second one usually takes a bit longer, so that should help you out too.
===warning....disgusting male anatomy details... ===
Ok when you need to pee but you hold it back you use a certain muscle. Now, feel the muscled area behind the testicles. When you have an erection, the area should swell slightly. Flex the muscles, and feel them as your flexing because that helps you get more control over them.If you do it your penis should feel more b pressure and raise itself slightly and get a bit harder. OK first thing, when you masturbate rub this area (it may make your orgasm feel a bit stronger). When you ejaculate, the muscles may spasm, but press down really hard, and you should be able to actually feel the sperm spurting under the muscles. Press down harder and block the sperm from flowing, and let it just stay inside you.
Hopefully you will notice that when you succesfully block the sperm, your penis will stay at least somewhat erect, and you can have another orgasm.
OK now that you know which muscles to use, try clenching them really tight before you orgasm and try to hold in the sperm without using your hands, but just the muscle. Try not stimulating your penis too much at this point, let the orgasm be a bit wimpier so you can better control it. If you can't maybe you can keep flexing the muscle or something and get them stronger, im not sure. Now your erection will stay even if you orgasm early. When you finally do let the sperm go, the orgasm will be more intense.
Note- you will need some self control because a held back orgasm doesn't feel as good as a released one, but it does last longer.
Yes, I do spend way too much time jacking off! Practice makes perfect.
