So, I have been hanging out with this girl very casually since Oct 31st. Only casually because she lives an hour away. I still live in our home town (went to HS together) and she moved to NYC and I don't go into the city that much and she doesn't come home that much. We have made out multiple times and h/u once.

And I really can't tell if she likes me or not. I am always the one to initiate conversations, whether text, phone or facebook. But if i ever ask to hang out she always says yes and it seems like she is excited.

Saturday is a good example: I texted her at 10pm

Omega: "Are we going to hang out soon?"
HB: "Hopefully"

Later that night, my friends went to a bar and I went to pick up my sister at the airport and didnt get the bar until 12:30. I walk into the bar and she is there. If she was into me, wouldn't she tell me she was coming home and what bar she was going to. It just seems a little odd, especially after the earlie texts we had.

A little background on her personality: Very artsy, liberal and kind of out there/spacey. Not the normal girl I would go for, but there is something about her that I like.

Im just trying to get a read on her to see if she actually likes me.

I'd say no, your question to her I think really empowers her, which is bad, I would bet that attitude has turned her off. But she seems friendly toward you, so there is some hope.

Is it recoverable if you have empowered her? How do you make the shift. If she is used to being contacted.

Likely, I would advice casually using some A2 material and neg her a bit with an invitation "We should _____, and if you're a good girl ____" etc..

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Please can you elaborate on A2 material?

Also thats a good invitation but if she is used to you asking her out all the time will this have an effect?

So, what do you think my next move should be? Should I just move on? (I would like to sleep with her again though)

Or is there a way to freeze her out? What I mean is- The next time I am going to NYC , send her a text letting her know I am in the city, giving her a slight neg and than also letting her know its her move to contact me.

If you've got an example please let me know.

If she contacts me great, ill go hang out with her. But if she doesn't i'll just ignore her until the next time I see her.

I also do not want to neg her to harshly b/c I think she might take it as an insult- especially if its by text.

I think it's important you show confidence, enjoy her company but make her think you have a lot of it, I would contact her once you're already in town, make sure it does not seem like you're going for her.

I would think about using her as a fake fallback, party got busted/friend fell ill, etc..

It's always good not to drag out communication, and when you do communicate stick to your DHV's and your busy social life.

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Do nothing which is of no use.

A2 material is basically just building yourself up, noticing what builds her attraction, and combined with a higher social value, it should definitely have an effect, especially if there's humor involved, she is comforted by how casual you are.

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Do nothing which is of no use.

So something along the line of-

Hey, I'm in the City with some friends and pre-gamming at john's apt. Were all going out to (name of bar) Just seeing what you're up to.


I think if i write this she will just answer back with what she is doing. I want to get her to say "Lets hang out" or "Meet me later at"

I'm just trying to get a sign of interest one way or the other.