So, I send this girl who I use to be teammates with an email, I don't know if she remembers me or not, but it's something along the lines of this canned material "there are interesting people who live interesting lives and then there are those who just say it but don't live it ... which one are you?". I started with a comment that might make her remember me. So it wasn't a cold opener. She hasn't responded. Don't really care.

But how do I get over this feeling of feeling stupid when you say these one liners, whether over email or in-person?

Don't get me wrong though, I don't mind "faking it till you make it" or "contacting 10 girls and one will respond".

I've fired off much worse messages than that. Usually on facebook, and always when drunk. You just have to try and laugh it off and use it as a learning experience, hence my sig. If you are truly comfortable with yourself, then other people's (especially those you do not know too well) opinion of you doesn't matter. Move on.

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Teammates? Like a soccer team or something? You could've brought that up...

Emails, to me, aren't much different than phones or in person. I can just talk about 5 things at once, which makes it a lot easier for them to feel a wide range of emotions.

I've sent worse things on Facebook, I think. I can't be too sure because I don't have Facebook anymore. But I said some pretty lame things.

To save yourself you could say (I learned this from David D,), "What? Playing hard to get already? Talk to me". You don't need to put the "already" thing there because you already kind of know her. Up to you.

And I don't have the problem of girls not responding to emails too often, unless I'm responding to ads on craigslist or something, where those girls have their pick of 60 different desperate guys. I wouldn't ever meet a craigslist girl, though, because they'll figure out I'm lying about my age (15) eventually. I only test out email openers on them to see how they respond.

So far, I've had 3/10 -ish respond, and my results from those were very nice. One was really exceptional.

There was also a poll taken where the majority of women would give up sex instead of giving up internet. The guys had the opposite results. But this means that you could give them both. Well... If you know how, that is!

To get over that feeling, well... I'd just start feeling awesome about myself, and start working on inner game. You've probably learned from this experience, so you should just try again. And maybe on somebody else.

just dont let it get to u cus the worst that could happen is she doesnt respond to u, they you take ur sweet 1 liners else where

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yea man, ive done it plenty of times, and your email really wasnt that bad. Recently, I did it drunk on new years eve over facebook. Again, you just laugh it off. I figure I never had her, so I dont really give a damn.

In fact, the first time i actually grew the balls to do a cold approach successfully, I walked into a pizzeria and sat down next to a girl and her friends and said that she was gorgeous and i really had to get to know her. I sat there for a few minutes talking to them, then got her number. I got drunk and confessed my love to her voicemail. That was kind of tough to get over. but again, it's a good story.

yea man, ive done it plenty of times, and your email really wasnt that bad. Recently, I did it drunk on new years eve over facebook. Again, you just laugh it off. I figure I never had her, so I dont really give a damn.

In fact, the first time i actually grew the balls to do a cold approach successfully, I walked into a pizzeria and sat down next to a girl and her friends and said that she was gorgeous and i really had to get to know her. I sat there for a few minutes talking to them, then got her number. I got drunk and confessed my love to her voicemail. That was kind of tough to get over. but again, it's a good story.