Ever wonder why some people are surrounded with friends while others struggle to maintain a few relationships? Many of us, at some point, wished we had more friends. For some of us, that feeling may be occurring right now. It would seem simple to say making friends is as simple as going out and talking to people....that is what people who have lots of friends will say. Then you feel frustrated beacuse you don't think it is as easy as that; you have tried to talk to people and make friends but they don't want to be your friend. Sound familiar?

This is the Law of Attraction. Your thoughts become your actions. So how you perceive yourself is manifested in your body language and interactions (or lack of interaction) with others. If you do not believe you are fun, why should other people believe you are fun? You must convince yourself that you are high value and worthy of a million friendships before anyone else can accept that notion.

But how does one do this? Does it come as an epiphany? Perhaps for some. The first step in the Law of Attraction is to express gratitude for the relationships that you already have in life. This could be with family, friends, teachers, aquaintances etc... Gratitude creats positive energy and a positive aura. Do things to show the people in your life that you are grateful for their friendship. It could be as simple as listening to them.

Those who have trouble with their friendships usually need to restructure their thinking. This is similar to Rye Lee's theory of Approach Excitement rather than Approach Anxiety. Thinking about anxiety creates anxiety. So thinking about your lack of friends and thinking about being lonely, will create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Create a visualization that has you socializing with a bunch of friends. You are the center of attention and the life pf the party. Think about this often! Or visualize something else about a friendship that is important to you.....make your visualizations custom and special to you.

Say an affirmation to yourself. Affirmations are positive SPAM made in the present tense. Say "I have many friends" or "I am a great friend." Say it with enthusiasm and KNOW it is going to change your thinking. Fully accept the affirmation, don't question its ability to work.

And lastly, put yourself out there. Don't close yourself off to people. If someone asks you to do something and you are feeling a little tired or you are in the middle of watching your favorite show, then go. Get out there and make yourself available to succeed and make more friendships.

Great Post Bonita!

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