When I start getting close to a girl, start liking her or have any kind of emotional attachments towards her, I have the problem of putting the pussy on a pedestal. I feel like it’s wrong of me to manipulate this girl into doing anything with me, even if she wants it. I feel like she should initiate otherwise it’s like I’m doing something wrong, something she doesn’t want, or like I’m violating her and taking advantage of her body for my own pleasure.

Only with girls that I don’t care about do I feel comfortable with doing anything sexual. I don’t feel emotionally attached so I don’t care about their feelings towards me. If she likes me more or less afterwards it doesn’t matter because in my mind I didn’t invest anything emotional, I won’t be hurt if I never see her again so it seems okay to have sex.

Its wrong to make her feel femine? I don't know what you do bro ( i hope you don't do some kinky shit) but theres nothing wrong. Use your rakish (boyesh) charm, just like girls use there siren or coqette charms on us. I think that you have beliefs that are making you feel this way. Before you can work on the teqniques, you would want to start from the inside, with your beliefs and character. Read a self help book, i'd suggest awaken the giant within, a self help book does wonders especially if you don't read often. Like stephon r covey said, " only basic goodness gives life to teqnique" Basic goodness as in yourself, your charecter and beliefs.

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"Crushing requires a crushing mood" Miyamoto Musashi

I can totally relate to you buddy. I grew up in a very religious family and I was brought up to think that sex outside of marraige is wrong, I used to also watch alot of porn as well and in all of those movies sex is just all about disrespecting the girl in as many ways as possible!. Ive gone through the same thing as you. I find that when I really care about a girl I put off sex for as long as I can because I dont want to disrespect the girl and then when Im not romanticly interested in the girl I just use them for sex. Its even been to the point where I would have a girlfriend who I didnt sleep with and then Id have my girls on the side who Id screw reguarly. But fortionatly Ive managed to recondition myself. You just need to realise that sex is something special between two people. Its an intimate connection.

My advice is A. if you watch alot of porn, then stop! B. stop sleeping with girls you dont have respect for, you can still have casual sex but dont do it unless you feel some kind of legit connection with the girl and can see it as being just as great an experience for her as it is for you. and C. if you have a girlfriend, talk to her about it and work through it.