hi puas,

i´m making some approaches in a supermarket (one-one)...and have some problems like in some time that i´m in A3, the woman cross her arms...i think that this is an IOD...or kind so...have this happened with you guys before?

Second...in most of the time...after 10 minutes or so..that i´m sargind...they told me they have a boyfriend...but continuing to talk to me...as I know from guys of the community...I keep going...but when I go for the phone...they usually don´t give me...sometimes...the e-mail...

so...did you guys have the knowledge how to handle that? I guess i´m giving too much interest...or not faking desinterest enough...please let me know...

yours faithfully,

xerife

For the crossing of the arms. It depends what her facial expression is. If she gives a "what the hell?" expression or is mad at you then you're just getting her attention. If she looks at you like she's using her arms to bounce you off or get you away, then you've screwed up.

The whole boyfriend thing is not related to the close. It seems you're doing a god job since the best bf destroying is ignoring the subject all together and moving on with conversation.

I think these girls are just shit testing you especially the ones with the emails. Quickly interrupt her and say something along the lines of "No I don't think you understood me. (taunting smile) That's an email not a number."

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Love, KATA124

What do people mean when they say "A2" and "A3" and stuff? I've looked in the common terms thing but couldn't find it..

The mystery method:
A1 - Approach
A2 - Attracting the HB or Female-to-male Interest
A3 - Male-to-Female Interest

The comfort phase is divided into :
C1 - Building rapport
C2 - Building emotional connection and physical connection
C3 - Intimacy

The seduction phase is divided into :
S1 - Foreplay
S2 - LMR
S3 - Sex

"People have always tried to turn body language into a content
vocabulary, as if holding your head back meant that you were reserved
and crossing your legs meant that you were closed. But body language
doesn't work like words work; it works differently. Eye movements
and body movements will give you information about process.
The proper domain, in our opinion, of professional communicators
is process. If you indulge in content, you are going to unavoidably
impose part of your belief and value system on the people you
communicate with." - Bandler-'Frogs into Princes

All you can do is tune your sensory experience to notice the changes in her (voice tonality, skin color, breathing, eye patterns, etc). When you attach meaning to any changes you notice you are attempting a mind read.

If you are interested in learning more I recommend reading up on NLP. Introducing NLP by Seymour and O'connor is a good read to start.